Emotional and physical pain has a huge connection in our health. We usually ignore our emotional pain and it builds up throughout our bodies every day. The tension, anxiety and turmoil intensifies creating health issues and stress. The emotional pain festers into a physical symptoms, illness and disease. In my case, I suffered from chronic pain, anxiety and fatigue, since childhood. I started my health journey undertaking the physical symptoms (pain, fatigue & digestive issues) and realize now that it stemmed from emotional trauma. It took me a year to truly tackle the physical pain and heal my body, but it doesn’t have to be that hard. My struggle to regain my health, tackle my pain and symptoms was an essential preparation for this final step. The sense of accomplishment helped me create a happy positive life. Once that phase of my life was complete, it was time to tackle the emotional pain. The emotional journey is definitely a work in progress as new obstacles arise daily. It requires dedication, perseverance and persistence to tackle your emotions, feelings and beliefs. I realize now, that you don’t need to tackle it alone. Creating a positive support system is essential in dealing with your pain. Developing a group of friends and family that truly create a positive, nurturing and supportive environment for you to learn, grow and flourish is essential. It is an important part of the journey to break ties with those individuals that bring you down and hold you back. I realized the importance of finding key influential positive people in your life this year and connected with a multitude of supportive peopl. I found many influential and supportive people in my local community with BNI Rainmakers, Luly B and Adrianna Foster. There are many more supportive people that have helped me in my journey to wellness but these have been the most significant in my emotional journey. These fabulous empowering business owners have given me confidence, support and guidance to continue to build my business and embrace my purpose in life. My purpose in life is to help people accomplish their health and wellness by providing guidance and support through the process. I teach my clients to embrace and understand their feelings, develop goals to meet their needs and support them in their journey. So whether, your journey is to lose weight, enhance orgasms, tackle a chronic disease or just feel healthy, then I am your girl. I am here to help you tackle the pain, overcome the obstacles and succeed in your endeavors.
Sexting with your partner can be fun, exciting and ignite a fire in your body. Sexting is a fun and provocative form of communication. It is an thrilling way to flirt with your partner and rev up your engine. Pumping up the electrifying conversation will prepare both of your bodies for a great evening. Society has placed this label of taboo on anything to do with sex. There is no reason for this feeling of wrong doing or inappropriate behavior when it comes to your relationship. Your relationship is a safe place and sharing with your partner is fun, exciting and perfectly normal. Flirting is a big part of courtship and relationships. There is no reason why the flirting needs to stop just because you are married. Flirting doesn’t have to stop when you are in a committed relationship either. Its up to you to change the rules for yourself. Develop a plan that makes you feel sexy, happy and alive. It can be simple or complex depending on your desires and fantasies. Your relationship is a safe place to share your desires and fantasies. There is no need to keep your desires and fantasies secret from your partner. Let them truly understand your needs and appetite for your sexual experiences. We all have fantasies and your relationship is a safe place to share them. Your partner will embrace your fantasies and desires to develop a more intense and deep bond between you. I know it can be hard to step out of your comfort zone. I lived it, I was hiding my desires and fantasies for 15 years from my husband. I was scared to express myself and truly tell him what I needed. It doesn’t have to be such a struggle. Everything started to change the moment I started to share my likes and dislikes with my husband. Our relationship grew in exponential ways once I finally took the leap and truly expressed myself. The passion we felt during our courtship returned and our sexual relationship flourished once again. You can start simple with sexting or sending a pictue. Sometimes sending a text is easier than speaking your mind. Sometimes a little love note or email is even easier. For me that was how it started, writing a letter via email was the medium for me to regain the voice that I had hidden for so long. Once you open the door the communication begins to flow easily and the walls you have built tumble down. Sexting doesn’t have to be difficult or scary. If you don’t know what to say, there are so many options today. It doesn’t have to feel dirty or wrong to share with someone special. There are now a variety of applications with phrases to help guide you. There are even quotes on the internet that you can use to get ideas. If you are scared of sending pictures you can use SnapChat. Once you start exploring and engaging in sexting it becomes easier and the excitement builds. Taking a few minutes to tell your partner that you are thinking of them makes them feel appreciated, wanted and desired. It brings you closer and opens the door for communication and fantastic sex. So take a leap, send your partner a sexy text message, the results will surprise you.
Foreplay is essential for women because it takes longer for us to get to the point of orgasm. Foreplay creates excitement and initiates the bodies responses for fun by dilating blood vessels and increasing blood flow. Foreplay also improves oxygen and nutrient delivery throughout the body to prepare your genitals and erogenous zones. But the truth is foreplay doesn’t have to be what you think. Foreplay is about engaging the body and creating sensations that stimulate your desires. “You play” can be done all alone with the same wonderful benefits. I have created a few simple routines that create the benefits of foreplay in a non-sexual way, let’s call it “you play.” I developed these routines to help relax my body, reduce stress and inflammation. The fun fact I learned was that stretching, yoga and deep breathing provide a variety of unexpected benefits. My yoga stretch, kegel yoga and tension buster routines impact your body similar to foreplay. The best thing is that you can do it all alone and you don’t have to feel ashamed or embarrassed about stretching and relaxing your body. All three routines use your body weight, the environment and gravity to impact each and every muscle in your body. Through progressive relaxation with deep breathing your body relaxes and gets revved up for a fabulous orgasm. Incorporating deep breathing and focused stretching targets the body in a unique way that promotes relaxation, tension release, restful sleep and even orgasm. Foreplay serves a females needs by meeting the physical and emotional preparation we need for fabulous sex. The hugs, kisses and caresses of foreplay prepare the body by increasing lubrication which is essential for orgasm. Yoga Stretch, tension buster and kegel yoga provide the same benefits as foreplay. Both foreplay and my routines help prepare the vagina for a great orgasm by enabling muscles throughout the body to relax. By engaging your pelvic muscles during the routine your natural fluids build and prepare your for sex. Females need vaginal lubrication and blood flow to the clitoris to achieve orgasm. Preparing the body by engaging in targeted relaxation provides the same benefits as foreplay. The best part is it also prepares you for restful sleep. Wether you perform this routine for restful sleep, self-play or pre-sex routine, you will reap the benefits.
Are you serious? Does this work? Yes it does. You see 1 year ago, I had no libido or desire for sex. I was suffering from chronic pain and inflammation. Stress and anxiety didn’t let me shut off my brain and relax for sex. Sex was more like a chore than a desire for me. Over this year, week by week, I started to reap the benefits of my routine. I noticed I was more ready for sex and relaxed in the moment. My mind was not wondering as much and I was more present in the moment. The best part was that my libido and interest in sex slowly creeped back. As my libido returned, my orgasms intensified and multiplied. Orgasms became more intense and more pleasurable because my blood was flowing more freely throughout my body. The inflammation was being targeted through supplementation and daily relaxation techniques. My body was no longer blocked by pain, inflammation, stress or anxiety. I was able to relax and enjoy sex to truly connect with my husband and achieve better orgasms. The fun fact, I learned is that the routine also helped me sleep better with or without sex. Wether you are comfortable playing alone, engaging in sex or not the routine helps prepare your body for relaxation, stress release and sleep. So why, not try a routine that enhances your bedtime routine and takes 20-30 minutes to reap the benefits. You play classes: Tension buster, Yoga Stretch, Kegel Yoga or Fireworks series, you choose the class for you.
We only get one chance at this Life, Embrace it. Embrace the life you have and enjoy every day you have on earth. Trust me I know it can be difficult sometimes. We often get stuck in a negative mindset and feel trapped. This negativity stops us from enjoying the happiness and fun around us. Staying positive and enjoying life has changed a lot for me. Positivity has opened my life to new possibilities for today and tomorrow. It has given me the power to tackle obstacles and challenges. I tackled my obstacles and created the life I love. I have learned to embrace and enjoy the little things. I learned to truly enjoy the life I was given. Don’t get me wrong, it took time to establish this positive routine and effectively use it daily. It was a struggle to heal my body and develop a positive outlook. But my journey was worth every moment because I am worth it. You are worth it too. You deserve to be happier, healthier and enjoy the life you have. Sometimes you need a helping hand to change your mindset. Maybe you need a little push in the right direction. I know for me, I had an internal desire, motivation and dedication to accomplish my desires. But the journey doesn’t have to be as hard as mine was. If I would have had a helping hand to show me the way, I would have accomplished it so much sooner. I am here to guide your way. Let me help you find the motivation you need, the support you desire and the helping hand to change your future. Don’t let the negativity bring you down. Shout out and spread positivity to yourself and the world around you. Positivity will change your life and the lives of those around you. Let me help you find the obstacles that are holding you back, create strategies to tackle them and develop the life you want. Let’s embrace life now, don’t wait until tomorrow, it might be too late. Live the life you want now. Love the life you have, embrace it and live the way you want, now and forever. Create the life you want today. There is nothing stopping you…
Reignite the love of your body. Learning to love and appreciate your body can be hard. I never thought I was sexy or attractive until recently. I didn’t appreciate the body I was given. I forgot the importance of taking care of my body every day. This constant physical assault with poor diet, lack of exercise and emotional pain progressively made everything worse. I lost the connection with my body creating an inability to feel pleasure. Over the years, as pain grew, illness prevailed and health declined the connection continued to dwindle daily. Over the past 15 years, my self-love, libido and sensations became dormant. I lost the desire to love and be loved. I lost my libido, somewhere between college and children. I lost the sensations and desires my body craved and enjoyed. Finally, when I hit rock bottom, I knew their had to be a better way. I knew that I desired to love myself, to feel love and enjoy my body again. I knew that I deserved to have a libido and enjoy sex with my husband. I realized that the toxic environment in my body was stopping me from achieving my desires and fulfilling my needs. I made a conscious decision to change my health, my life and my future. I knew the journey would be difficult but worth the trouble. Tackling my obstacles and establishing a healthy lifestyle started my path to rediscovering my body. I created a plan to optimize my bodies potential and reduce symptoms effectively. I learned to target my muscles to reduce pain, inflammation and symptoms. Thankfully, reducing symptoms was only the beginning. Once symptoms began to disappear, desires and sensations began to reappear. My body began to embrace intimate moments with my husband again. My body began to enjoy simple sensations that I was not able to enjoy before. I learned to create a Yoga routine that helped prepare my body for sleep and intimacy. My technique was designed to target my pain areas and progressively relax each and every muscle. Over the past year, I have perfected my technique, creating more effective targeted muscle relaxation. Now, I am here to share my story with the world. To tell women they deserve to love and embrace their bodies. They deserve to enjoy intimacy and achieve orgasms. They deserve to reduce stress, anxiety, pain and more. They deserve to live the life they want in the body they love. I am here to show you my techniques and help you achieve what I did. Love your body, embrace it and learn the multitude of possibilities it has to offer. Learn to target your pelvic muscles for better orgasms. Learn to relax your tight muscles more effectively. Breathe deeply and embrace the sensations of stretching and relaxation. Let me show you how to embrace your body and achieve all your desires. Your journey is only a phone call away. Ask me how?
Chocolate orgasm? What the heck is that, lol. It’s exactly as it sounds. I ate chocolate and had the most intense orgasm of my life. I believe this was only possible because I began my health journey several months prior to this experience. I took action after I realized “I was sick and tired of being sick and tired.” I sought out holistic treatments to begin my wellness journey in January 2014, and I had no idea what the world had in store for me. The orgasm occurred after several months of detoxifying my body and eating a strictly vegan diet. The delectable chocolate flourless dessert was the first dessert I had eaten in months. At this point in my life, I had a non-existent libido and sex was more of a chore than pleasure. I was constantly under stress and anxiety, which didn’t allow me to relax and enjoy the moment. Emotionally I was a wreck, I had no self-esteem, was very self-conscious and overweight. My life was ruled by stress, anxiety and feelings of insecurity. The romantic getaway was my graduation gift to celebrate my new Master’s degree as a Nurse Educator. We were in a gorgeous, tranquil, private couples only resort in Virgin Gorda. We had a private bungalow in a remote and secluded area of the resort. I was finally relaxed and stress free in this scenic and gorgeous location with my husband. The relaxing environment set the stage for the most memorable experience of my life. We enjoyed a multitude of quiet and relaxing activities in the picturesque vacation spot and this orgasm was the highlight of the trip.
The chocolate orgasm was definitely the beginning of my sexual reawakening. I am a chocolate addict and I can’t get enough once I taste it. I usually avoid chocolate because one bite results in chocolate cravings for days or weeks. But on vacation anything goes and chocolate was on my list. At lunch, I ordered a flourless chocolate cake to indulge my addiction, little did I know the adventure that would follow. I enjoyed my delectable flourless chocolate cake appreciating each and every sinful bite. Oh boy, the results were interesting and exhilarating. I have heard chocolate is an aphrodisiac but this was unexpected and completely unpredictable. I experienced a 2 hour orgasm that was both exhilarating and exhausting. The “Orgazmik” first 30 minutes were wonderful and memorable, and undoubtedly my best orgasm ever. It was the most intense orgasm I had ever experienced until this year. This years libido and orgasms surpass that chocolate orgasm by an exponential distance. The chocolate orgasm was absolutely crazy, painful, extraordinary and exhilarating all at once. Each sensation caused intense trembles throughout my body. My abdominal muscles were contracting every few seconds. Each constriction became more and more intense and profound. My breathe was rapid, as I gasped to regain control of my breathing; orgasm after orgasm. Every gentle caress of my skin made me shudder intensely. Each caress of my shoulder, face and legs created convulsion that continuously took my breathe away. Every desired caress or kiss implanted a memory in my brain and sent fireworks through my body. My body would not feel an orgasm this intense again for several years. Had I known then that this orgasm was going to be the last big orgasm for 4 years, I would have bought a boatload of cake. The sensations were imprinted in my memory but locked away and trapped in my subconscious. I had forgotten the intense sensations and detailed memories until the past few months. And until, this weekend in September 2018, I had not regained the courage to embark and truly describe my story detail by detail.
Why did the intricate memories and sensations stay trapped away? I believe it was because my journey to wellness was commencing and I had a lot of illness and healing to tackle. The severe inflammation in my body caused the sensations and orgasms to declined after the vacation. Once the relaxing vacation ended and life stress returned the orgasms diminished once again. And the “orgazmik” experience and memories would slowly drift away over the years. My libido slowly improved year by year but chronic suffering, pain, stress and anxiety continued to take its toll on my body physically and emotionally. My journey to spectacular orgasms would take another few years to return with a vengeance. The drastic libido change came in 2017 after 4 months of nutrigenomics. I will discuss my long journey in my book but for now let’s get back to the orgasm of the century. The orgasm caused my jaw to clench, body to ache and voice to tremble. The debilitating spasms of my muscles were provoked by every breathe, breeze, caress and sexual sensation. Each and every breeze from the fan would cause a contraction of every muscle in my body. The experience was both exhilarating and exhausting as each minute passed and it continued to intensify. After 45 minutes I was exhausted, even the fan would set me off again and again.
I had heard of women having endless orgasms but had never experienced it. I never in a million years, thought I would experience such an intense orgasm. I had actually seen a TV show several months prior to this trip about sex emergencies. I remembered the show but never expected it to happen to me. It was an draining experience with small and large orgasms combined. Exhaustion quickly set in and every second made the sensations more intense and debilitating. I remember begging my husband to stay away, stop touching me and turn off the fan. I remembered the TV show and nursing critical thinking took flight. I remembered the girl on TV took Benadryl, thank goodness I always pack every possible medication when traveling. So my husband found the Benadryl and it worked. Wow, I thought “Benadryl will stop the histamine reaction,” let me try it and directed him to get me water and Benadryl. Thank goodness, I remembered the show because I was desperate to get a break. Female orgasms are intense on their own and with the potential for multiple orgasms the possibilities are endless. Each orgasm causes a multitude of muscles tightening all over your body, so imagine how drained my body was getting. The orgasms were so intense I couldn’t even stand up. After 20 minutes of Benadryl the sensations slowed down. I finally fell asleep about 1 hour later, the next day I was exhausted, slept late and had a very lazy day.
Chocolate Orgasm Take 2
Since the first orgasm was so amazing and the chocolate so delicious, I couldn’t resist a second round. I had a chocolate orgasm again the following day. This orgasm started after a romantic dinner and dessert. The exceptional flourless chocolate cake combined with red wine created an intense need for sex. The chocolate turned on all of my cells: skin, clitoris, vagina, mouth, everything. There was no escaping the reaction the combination of wine and chocolate had on my body. I could feel every touch, every kiss and stimulation tenfold. It reminded me of the sensations I experienced as a teenager, those intense hormonal sensations you feel your first sexual encounter. It was like my body had turned OFF all these years and suddenly had awaken. All these sensations had been dormant so long. It was strange because my body was making connections with my brain that I couldn’t explain or understand. I could actually feel what I had seen on TV. I had seen a woman that orgasmed so much she ended up in the ER to stop it. I could feel the sensations move from the peak of my clitoris to the vagina and perineum near my rectum. Before seeing the show about female orgasms, I had never realized the size and span of the female clitoris. But now I could see it in my brain and feel it as it occurred in my body. The experience made me experience the link between pain and pleasure, something I had realized in the past but only truly experienced on this day. My pain centers were transformed into pleasure centers and amplified the sexual experience. My shoulder, which has been a site of constant pain for 20 years suddenly, was triggered to cause an orgasm with a simple touch, squeeze, kiss or bite. My butt and stomach, which have been a lifelong struggle with abdominal pain and cramping due to irritable bowel syndrome, was suddenly transformed to an intense pleasure site. I would never have said I enjoyed anal to anyone, not even my husband, but for some reason this site made me have a deep intense orgasm, I couldn’t explain. After about an hour I was exhausted, I had to tell my husband to keep his hands off, even the breeze from the fan, would trigger a small orgasms. It was hard to catch my breath and relax, I could feel the sensation travlel the entire clitoris from the peak to the base, over and over again. Thank goodness for Benadryl or I never would have been able to relax and sleep that night. After 30 minutes of taking Benadryl the sensations finally stopped and I slept like a baby. But I was exhausted for two days, the day after we returned home, I slept most of the day, just to recover from that intense experience and the huge fluid loss from my waterfall orgasms. This was the beginning of my sexual reawakening and the beginning of my reconnection with my feminine energy. The true Reawakening happened this year in 2018, stay tuned for the rest of the story. If you are looking to embrace self love, reignite your desires and learn your body; I am your girl. My fireworks class is designed to teach you about your body and reunite you with the sensations you are looking to rekindle.
My True Reawakening
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Love your body, seems simple right. Well it truly is a complex process, there is nothing simple about it. Learning your body can take months or even years to achieve. It took me 20+ years in a constant health struggle to decide; there had to be a better way to Love my body. I was oblivious to the potential my body had to offer, the gifts I was given and the path my journey would take me. I wasted years eating the wrong foods, hiding my emotional/physical pain and avoiding physical activities. This constant physical assault on my body caused my physical and emotional illness to develop and my self-love to diminish. Over the past 5 years, I learned the foods that were optimal for my body, the physical activities that made me heal, the importance of caring for yourself, and the optimal routine to maintain my health. My true understanding of my body came over the past year. Finally, I was free of pain and able to feel and understand the messages my body was sending. I became aware of the tension forming in my muscles, when stress was at its peak. I realized that taking the time to address this tension early on, helped prevent the development of severe pain and helped maintain a state of homeostasis or balance. I learned to develop techniques and strategies to promote my daily healing, detox, muscle relaxation, repair and rejuvenation. I learned that there is a huge connection between physical and emotional pain. This fact made me more aware of emotional stress and its impact on my body. I was able to incorporate relaxation and stress relief into my routine to reduce the impact stress had on my body. Over this year, I developed my tension-buster routine, its unique for my body, my tension and my pain. But the fun fact is, it can be adapted and developed to help others achieve the same benefits. I learned to use my environment, gravity and body weight to stretch each and every muscle in my body. I learned to feel the tension in each muscle and learn ways to release the stress, toxins and tension from each one. Wether the pain is in your shoulder or your leg, our muscles are all interconnected and effective stretching needs to target this complex muscle network. I learned that my bodies weakness is toxins and poor circulation. My techniques help me optimize my bodies potential to release these toxins and enhance my circulation to reduce inflammation, stress and pain more effectively. The best benefit of my tension-buster routine and health journey, was rediscovering my libido. My libido had gone, completely dormant for 10-15 years, due to my severe illness and build up of toxins. It was an amazing benefit to see that all the work and effort I put into healing my body, helped me reap such powerful physical and emotional benefits. Over the past few months, I further adapted my routine to include Kegel Yoga. This Kegel Yoga routine is specifically designed for women to enhance libido, improve vaginal muscle strength and improve orgasms. This yoga is part of my daily routine and the benefits are outstanding. I am thankful that my friends and peers are now seeing the benefits of the courses, I offer. Kegel Yoga is designed to help women develop an intimate relationship with their bodies, combining the tension-buster yoga with kegel strengthening to enhance and reengage sexual desires. So, there it is, if you want to learn your body and reconnect with its unique abilities, give me a call. I am here to share my routines with you, in groups or private sessions. Learn to love your body, feel it, experience and achieve all you desire. Book an appointment, today, what are you waiting for?
A good friend once told me, don’t deny the world of your gifts, speak your mind and tell your story. My friend Luly B. has inspired me to share my story, speak my mind and change the world. She helped me realize my story is powerful and worth sharing. She has empowered me to share my gift of healing with the world. She has opened my mind to the possibilities for my new career path as a Holistic Health Coach. She empowers and supports my growth and development of my business. I am thankful for the reawakening of my passion. I am inspired to help others heal emotional and physical pain in a supportive, caring and meaningful environment. Luly has helped me develop myself into the strong women that I am today, the journey was not easy, these past few months have been the hardest. But every step in my journey has been leading me to becoming the woman I want to be: a supportive, inspirational and loving voice to guide others in their wellness journey. Over the past few months, I have realized my health journey and experiences with illness, physical pain, emotional pain and disease, were a stepping stone to my future. My journey created the foundation for my new career path as a Holistic Health Coach. My struggles, experiences and accomplishments have made me the woman I am today. If my life would have been pain free and emotionally easy, I would not have all the experience and knowledge I have today. This expansive knowledge base helps me make connections with people, understand their struggles and share my experiences in a meaningful manner with my peers, family, friends and clients. My experiences helped me develop the skills that I needed to become an effective, compassionate, caring, loving and inspirational Wellness Coach. Giving people the gift of wellness, is my passion, it is my new journey and my Gift to the world. I know that the gift is there waiting for everyone; open to learning and embracing it. It takes people time to realize that the gift I offer is exactly what they want for themselves. It requires the knowledge and understanding, that life can be fulfilling, happy, pain free and illness free. I can help people pop the bubble of symptoms, disease and illness. The question is, are You Open to receiving the gift I offer. I am here to share my gift with you, all you have to do is ask.
Speak your Mind! Share your story. Speak your truth and share from the heart. If there is one thing I have learned over these 2 months, is that speaking your mind is essential. If you have ever suffered from emotional abuse or trauma, it is hard to share your voice or speak your mind. It is hard to feel accepted and understood by others. You lose sight of your voice and its importance. It has always been hard for me to speak my mind. I suffered from anxiety and fear of public speaking all my life. It is easier for me to write a paper or story, than to speak it. I can write it all down in a journal, letter or story but getting up and Speaking, is another story. Over the past several months, through networking and social support, I have been able to reengage my voice and understand the importance. I realize now how important it is to express yourself and get your emotions out. The more you hold in your feelings and emotions, the more health issues develop. That was my biggest issue over my life, my physical and emotional pain, was triggered by keeping all my feelings and beliefs trapped inside. I never felt my voice was important, I didn’t think my story needed to be told, or that others would listen and appreciate it. I have learned through the relationships I have built this year, that my negative voice, was giving me the wrong idea. People have welcomed me and accepted me into their social realms. They have cherished the stories, I have told and the journey I have experienced, they see me as a powerful woman that is going to change the world. It was hard for me to see and accept the truth until now. My voice was hidden for so long, it has been a process to get it out. I realize today that those that don’t let you express yourself, don’t deserve your company. If you find someone that holds you back, break the connection and move on. Your voice needs to be cherished, your feelings heard and your knowledge expressed to those that will benefit. I have met many people over that passed years and realize not everyone deserves to be part of my life. Those that help you become a better person and achieve your dreams, are the people you cherish. The individuals that foster your growth and development are the ones that earn your respect. The relationships you build need to be supportive and nurturing. You will encounter people that you think are interested in your intellectual mind, power and knowledge but they might not be honest or true. It is important to surround yourself with those that support you and guide you in your journey. There is no point in creating relationships with those that don’t enhance your individual growth. It is simply a waste of time and energy to engage in relationships and friendships that tear you down. Your voice needs to be heard, your struggles expressed, your feelings shared and your journey supported. Surround yourself with those people that help you achieve all your goals and dreams. The people that continue to foster and support your growth, wellness journey and life goals are your true friends and companions. Keep them close and grow those relationships, you will see how you grow with them.
Love your body! The truth is most of us don’t do this. We get stuck listening to the negative voice inside us. The voice torments us and makes us feel ashamed of who we are, how we look or the way we feel. I know first hand, how hard this transition can be. I have struggled with self-esteem my entire life. My friends always ask me, how is it possible, you are so gorgeous, why don’t you see it. The fact is, until you feel it, you won’t believe it, no matter what everyone else tells you. I worked my butt off to heal my body and finally started to feel a gradual improvement in self-esteem over the last 5 years. The fact is if you spend more time focusing on your health by healing your emotional and physical self, things will change and self-esteem comes with it. You will see changes in your physical body, thus improving the way you feel in your own skin. I can tell you the huge self-esteem change happened this year, over the last few months because I got out of my comfort zone. After, 1 year pain free, working on helping myself heal from autoimmune issues, taking time to relax and focus on myself, I was finally able to realize I needed to help others accomplish the same. After I started feeling healthier and happier, my self-esteem started to flourish. I started to truly look at my body as this beautiful gift, I was born with. I started to enjoy dressing up, putting on make-up and seeing the transformation my body had undergone. The true understanding of my beauty, didn’t come from close friends or family, it came from deep inside me but I had to work for it. Once, I started venturing out of my comfort zone, attending BNI meetings and networking happy hours, I realized the impact I had on others. I finally, was able to see what my friends and family had been telling me all along. When I really paid attention to the reactions others made, the complements I received and the way it made me feel, the changes started to happen. I no longer brushed off the complements, I accepted them and thanked those that gave them. I learned to give complements in return. I realized the power of complements and the desire everyone has to feel better about themselves. Over these past months, I have developed friendships with people that I never would have spoken to before. I was so shy and scared to speak to anyone because of my own insecurities and emotional struggles. When I got out of my comfort zone, accepted the complements and felt good in my own skin, my self esteem started to flourish. It allowed me to reflect on my childhood, the relationships from the past that affected my self-esteem and develop strategies to deal with those emotions. By accepting the hurt, developing a plan and actively working to improve my health, the emotional pain and self-esteem issues started to melt away. I share this because I know I am not the only person out there with self-esteem issues. I know that I am not the only person that stopped caring for myself and suffered emotional and physical pain as a result. I realize that sharing is the first step in helping others build up the courage to take on their own healing. A huge part of learning my body was physical but the emotional was just as important. Learning my physical pain, understanding it, feeling it, and learning how to combat it each and every day was the foundation for my emotional battle. By learning, how to relieve my own physical pain and tension, I was finally ready to combat the emotional pain. Emotional pain is hidden and harder to deal with and accept. It takes a real conscious effort to work on emotional struggles and make a change. These battles are easier when you have a coach to guide you through the process, I know that my holistic health coach, guided me through this final phase of healing. If it wasn’t for her, I would not have truly understand the reasons why I was so shy, why I had trouble speaking to others, and why I felt my voice was not important. This emotional process was difficult and left my voice silent again for almost 2 months, as I continued to learn myself. It was hard to express emotions and write my blog, while I was working on the final transformation. I realize now, that a lot of my physical pain, was caused by my emotional battle. I realize that holding in my emotions and not speaking my voice, caused my illness and pain. Now, 2 months later, I realize that it was the final step in my healing. I learned that self-esteem is impacted by your body and mind. I realized, that my voice is important, that my story is powerful, and I can help others heal. The power is in the journey, the connections and guidance you receive in the healing process. I am here to help others accomplish their desires and goals by helping them cherish, love and appreciate their bodies: mind, body and soul. I am here to help you find your self-esteem and keep it. I want you to know that you don’t have to struggle through this alone. There are plenty of people out there waiting to help you. I just happen to be someone that experienced it first hand, I am here to guide you through the journey, if you are ready to take the step.