Today, I recorded a hypnosis guided meditation. It resonated deep in my soul because I have connected with a multitude of people over the past year and noticed a pattern of self-punishment. The person that harms us the most is ourself. We hold ourselves to such impossible standards and never forgive ourselves for our mistakes. It is a harmful process that tears us down to pieces day by day. We don’t notice the harm until things start to fall apart and overwhelm hits us. And even then we don’t realize our biggest problem is our lack of self-love. We all make mistakes. It is part of being human. It is how we learn and grow. We make mistakes and adapt our lives to become better versions of ourselves. But there is one fact we never take into account. In our process of evolution, we miss some very crucial steps in our development of an abundant and prosperous life. This is what we fail to do for ourselves:
Have we let the past mistakes go?
Have we truly healed ourselves and learned from our mistakes?
Have you forgiven ourselves for the mistake?
Do you replay that moment in your mind?
Do you use any of these harmful words towards yourself? (undesirable, unworthy, not good enough, ugly, unattractive…) Those are only a few but believe it or not, I felt that way for most of my life. I bet many of you do too.
You might think you forgave yourself but think a little closer. Have you ever hurt someone you love? Even if that person forgave you for what you did. Did you forgive yourself? Chances are you didn’t. Do you replay this mistake in your head over and over putting yourself down? Do you keep making the same mistake over and over? Do you feel like life never changes for the better?
This is what I learned in my spiritual journey since August 2018. If we continue to treat ourselves with such hate and disrespect our lives aren’t able to transform. Think of transformation in a different form that is easy to understand. A butterfly has a very long growth process to support and nurture her evolution. It is all about self-care and self-love. The mommy butterfly lays her eggs on the perfect tree for her babies to grown. The larvae hatch and life has placed them in the perfect spot to flourish. The caterpillar is born into the world like a tiny spec of dust in a garden of abundance. She sits on a leaf and begins to eat. She nurtures herself every day by eating the perfect food for her body. She continues to grow bigger and bigger. She eats this perfect food and grows every day. She grows bigger and stronger everyday. When she is feeling perfectly fool and abundant she begins to weave her cocoon. It is an intricate and delicate process that she needs to do for herself. No other caterpillar can help her. She needs to travel this path of evolution for herself. She weaves the perfect little cocoon in the perfect spot for her transformation to continue and prosperity to emerge. This process isn’t very long for the butterfly. If she does everything right, loves herself and feeds herself the right food she will emerge in 14 days. She will be a new and beautiful creature that flies freely in the wind. When she emerges she is still delicate and weak. But as her wings dry and harden she finishes her transformation. She flies away to find some beautiful flowers to spread her love and create new life.
Now think what would happen if the butterfly allowed her self-sabotage tendencies to take over her life. She might not eat enough food to maker her strong. She picks a location to maker her cocoon that is not safe and brings her harm. She leaves a tiny hole in her cocoon. The sad truth is this poor little caterpillar will never emerge as a beautiful butterfly. She will die and decompose right there were she built her cocoon. That is exactly what we do to ourselves, everyday we put these judgements on ourselves. We tear down our self-love, break our self-esteem and self- loathing. We continue this assault on ourselves day after day. This assault accumulated in our body and begins to show itself in our physical body. We break ourselves down until we become overwhelmed with pain, grief, fear, worry, sadness, disgust… It is a vicious cycle but it can be transformed.
It is time to change the pattern. Its not for me. You need to do this for yourself. This journey is all your own. It is about feeding your mind and body everything it deserves. It involves transforming those negative thoughts into positive affirmations. It is about allowing these positive statements to resonate in your life. It is about letting go of those mistakes and forgiving yourself. It is about changing the story. No one can change to story for you. No one can stop you from connecting with people that harm you and bring you down. No one can stop you from eating foods that hurt your body. No one can make you exercise. No one can make you meditate. No one can make you do anything. And the worst part is No one can make it work and create your abundance but yourself.
I had to learn this all the hard way. It was a year of vicious cycles and ups and downs. Self-sabotage, worry and fear resonated my life in the down times. I finally realized it and decided to tackle it head on. It all started with hypnosis and body work. Transforming your thoughts, giving yourself a little self-love everyday and nurturing yourself is the secret to creating your abundance and prosperity. And once you have it and you feel it in your heart, no one can take it from you. That is why I have a blue butterfly on my shoulder. It is because no one can take my evolution away from me. This transformation was all mine. I worked my ass off for it and a beautiful butterfly emerged.
This past month when I began giving free hypnosis, the truth resonated even deeper in my soul. I could hear the pain in my clients voice. Their sadness, fear and worry taking over their lives. I realized that I needed to finish my transformation and own it. I needed to be the one to support these amazing women and men in their transformation. And guess what emerged when I did. Clients that felt energized, joyful and happy after hypnosis. Clients that felt empowered to take on their life and create the life they desire. The most crucial part of this evolution is making the investment for yourself and owning this as your path. To facilitate this process for my clients I created a 6 week course to begin their transformation. Let’s all become butterflies in our lives. Let’s emerge in our full abundance and prosperity.