Author Archives: Diane Vich

    Categories autoimmune, autoimmune crisis, Digestive Issues, Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, Fibromyalgia

    Grateful for My EDS III

    I know it sounds completely strange that I am grateful for my genetic debilitating condition.  I have Ehlers Danlos SyndromeBut the fact is that if I wouldn’t have been plagued with pain, symptoms and illness I wouldn’t have Published a book.  I am truly grateful for the years of pain, numbness and discomfort my condition gave me because it awakened me to the possibilities of a life without pain.  If I wouldn’t have lived most of my life in excruciating pain than I wouldn’t understand the gift of wellness I achieved.  So let me explain my pain a little better for you to understand the extent of my transformation.

    I began with symptoms in childhood with anxiety and digestive issues.  I don’t remember if I had physical pain at the time but I probably did.  I do remember I always had a Band-Aid or injury on the mend.  I did have a lot of infections, allergies, urinary tract infections and skin conditions.

    Fast forward to 8th grade, I already had pain in my neck and right arm.  The digestive issues were worse and feminine issues emerged. I began having frequent vaginal infections and chronic menstrual cramps.  The feminine issues progressively worsened because of my allergies to ingredients in feminine products but I had no idea.

    Fast forward to adult life, I spent countless hours at doctors’ offices and specialists because all the symptoms were overwhelming.  I was on tons of prescriptions and antibiotics regularly.  My debilitating symptoms progressed to the point where my right arm and right leg were completely numb.  My pain level was 9/10 constantly and needed modifications at work through ergonomics assessments.

    The conditions worsened with stress and during my nursing career disability emerged. II had a special chair which had neck, lumbar and butt support. And this chair took years to find after many alternatives didn’t work.  My arm was in so much pain that during my MSN education I had to get transcription to software o write my papers and assignments. I had a multitude of symptoms at this point in my life: reflux, IBS, bloating, injuries, skin infections, UTIs, vaginal infections, chronic pain, migraines and fatigue.  Wow I know that is a lot for anyone to handle.  It was a tough life but it made me the woman I am today.

    I am grateful and thankful for all those symptoms because they created an awareness inside me to change.  If I wouldn’t have been at rock bottom and filled with symptoms I wouldn’t have fought for a better life.  If I wouldn’t have known the truth about pain I wouldn’t have known there was a better way of life.  My awareness of discomfort pushed me into action.

    And those two beautiful gifts are part of what I teach today in my book, “The Truth about IBS and Anxiety.”

    The book is more than a triumph over digestive issues, bloating and anxiety.  It is a triumph over autoimmune disease, Fibromyalgia, insomnia, POTS, EDS III, Reflux, and Anxiety.

    My path to understanding my body came from a place of pain but it brought me to a deep sense of relief.

    So here I am almost 43 years old and in the best shape of my life.  I am more active now than I ever was in my teens and young adult life.  I have more energy, strength and vitality than I ever dreamed.  But if I wouldn’t have come from such a dark and lonely place I wouldn’t have achieved it.  And that is why, I created a Podcast, “Goddess Unleashed’ because I truly believe “Your Medical History doesn’t have to be Your Fate.”  If I could overcome a genetic condition that progressively debilitates you into a life of surgeries, physical therapy and immobility; than you can overcome your own genetic predisposition.

    The day I was diagnosed was an eye opening experience because the doctor praised me for everything I was doing to support myself.  And this came at a time when I was still plagued by pain.  And because I came from such a dark place I truly see, feel and experience the gifts I have been given.  I am truly grateful and thankful for my new life without pain and symptoms.  I am thankful that I don’t need prescriptions, surgeries and conventional treatments.  And that unique perspective is what I share on my podcast to bridge the gap between Conventional and Alternative Medicine on a path towards disease prevention and health promotion.  If you are looking for a way out of your debilitating symptoms, indigestion or anxiety than schedule your Free Clarity Call.  You have nothing to lose because you are already plagued by symptoms.  But you have everything to gain if and when you achieve your own unique wellness. Download journal tips, meditations and a FREE Copy of the book.

    Categories Advice, Anxiety, Emotional pain, Fear, flare up, freedom, Health, motivation, positivity, self-actualization, Self-doubt, Speak your mind, stress relief, Worry

    Rock Bottom to Awareness

    How do you get up from rock bottom?

    What do you do when you fall on your butt?

    What do you do when it feels like everything is falling apart?

    What do you do when life keeps sending you obstacles that throw you off course?

     

    Life always seems to send obstacles and challenges to throw us of course.  These obstacles can create frustration, stress and anxiety within us.  The journey can be annoying and difficult when you allow the stressful emotions to take over.  But actually each unique challenge is meant to make us stronger as we learn and grow. I have had plenty of rock bottom moments.  So many moments that threw me completely off course because stress got in the way.  And in the heat of the moment getting caught in the overwhelm and frustration creates havoc in our lives.  I have made plenty of these mistakes by getting caught in overwhelm and losing sight of my goals, dreams and purpose.  The amazing thing I have learned is that even after really challenging moments, everything works out in our favor in the long run.  In the midst of chaos it appears that our world is caving in around us but after all the dust settles, we evolve and life is better.

     

    Think about a stressful moment in your past.  Something that felt overwhelming and frustrating in the moment.  Maybe it was a physical injury, a lost job, a break up, a big argument or an illness.  In the heat of the moment you likely got caught up in the stressful feelings making you feel helpless and hopeless.  The effects of this stressful moment can last hours, days, weeks or months.  Trust me I know that some of these obstacles can truly get in our way and make us feel like the world is against us.  I have felt that way plenty of times.  Now think about that same situation after a few months passed.  Things settled and life started to return to normal. Your drive and motivation returned.  And life returned to its typical pace.  And when you reflect on those events, you might notice that everything worked out. But it wasn’t exactly as you planned it. For example, back in November 2019, I had an upset customer throw my life completely off balance.  In the heat of the moment, I was caught in my stressful emotions and felt a deep dread and impending doom.  I was caught in negative emotions and let the stress take over my life for weeks.  During this stressful situation, I felt helpless, hopeless and alone.  And literally in that moment when it all transpired, I was alone.  It all happened when my husband was away with my oldest son.  I was home alone with my youngest.  And I could have been enjoying this fun bonding time with him.  But instead I was dealing with the subconscious self-limiting beliefs that made me spiral into a sense of fear and overwhelm.  I was so stressed and anxious that I completely felt like my world was caving in on me. And I forgot I had 15 years of amazing customer service on my side.  I forgot that everyone has a bad day sometimes.  I forgot that sometimes you can’t please everyone even when you do everything in your power to support them.  I forgot that I am amazing at my job and that my colleagues all new it.  I lost sight of who I am and I lost hope for everything.  And that extreme stress caused sudden emotional shifts and crying fits. And this wasn’t the first or the last intensely stressful situation.

     

    In the heat of the moment, I let stress, anxiety and fear get the best of me. The situation left me feeling drained, exhausted and frustrated on all levels. I was physically drained of energy.  I lost mental focus and productivity.  I was emotionally frustrated and overwhelmed.  The funny thing is that I know better.  I know the power of using your awareness to free your body and mind of negative emotions.  And I teach my clients to use their awareness to take action and get out of these situations.  But everyone makes mistakes, even me. Because the subconscious mind is more powerful than we can imagine.  And I let myself spiral into the old frustrated version of myself.  I lost sight of all the amazing things in my life because I let the stress of that situation get the best of me.  And when stress gets the best of you, it can completely take over your life.  And it did for quite a while, until I began to slowly take charge of my life again.

     

    That challenging moment kept getting in my way as my self-limiting beliefs and negative thoughts took over my mind.  It continued for a few months as I worked through those negative thoughts, feelings and emotions.   And as I dealt with the true root of the problem my awareness and clarity began to unveil itself.  I have always known the root cause of our emotional shifts come from deep in our past experiences.  The emotional turmoil feels like it is the result of the current situation.  But that deep sense of overwhelm and frustration stems from something way in our past that is imbedded in our subconscious mind.  These overwhelming emotions usually stem from our past childhood and adolescent experiences that were never processed or resolved thoroughly.  And I have worked through many but the subconscious mind always needs attention.

     

    I slowly regained my self-confidence, motivation and drive.  But the journey back was dreadful and I know it was my choice to allow that to take place.  I could have responded differently and ended the torment quickly.  Thankfully, my reputation for great customer service, kindness and compassion prevailed.  And that dreadful day slowly disappeared from my mind.  In that moment of intense anxiety, stress and overwhelm; I was stuck in emotions from the past.  I was processing emotions from my childhood as a Special needs child.  Most people don’t realize that I had a Learning Disability.  They can’t believe that a successful Nurse and Educator could possibly have had learning challenges.  But I did and the journey was not easy.  I worked hard to get out of special classes and eventually graduate with honors from High school and college. But my unprocessed emotions from my childhood were hidden far away in my subconscious mind.  I honestly had no memory or recollection of my experiences as a special needs child.  Actually my childhood was all a blur and I know now it is because I was always stuck in the fight or flight response.  I spent most of my life stuck in this dreadful state of overwhelm and my health declined progressively till I took charge in my 30s.  The stress response was always in motion for me creating havoc on my body physically and emotionally. Just to paint a little picture of what stress can do to your body. I had lost half of my hair by my 20s.  I had severe digestive issues that eventually required surgery and multiple prescriptions.  I had chronic pain and numbness that began in High school. And my health was at a point of crisis in my mid 30s.

     

    Now let’s jump back to the experiences with self-limiting beliefs as a special needs child.  I honestly had no recollection of my experiences as a special needs child until the dust settled after the incident in November.  I realized that all those intense emotions had nothing to do with the situation at hand.  But rather my physical and emotional response mirrored my childhood when I was bullied for being different.  I was teased and picked on because it took me longer to take tests.  I was teased because math and reading was harder for me.  I was ridiculed because I was different from everyone else.  I was isolated because I was the girl that had to leave mainstream class to go to several special classes during the day. I was made fun of because I was bigger and more voluptuous than girls my age.  I was under so much stress due to this emotional turmoil and frustration that I had completely blocked most of my childhood memories.  As a means of protection my mind literally shut down and hid most of my childhood memories, even the good ones.

     

    A few weeks after issue in November, the dust settled and life came back to normal. My career was intact and my overwhelming emotions had resolved.  And as families reached out to me for support to help their special needs children with anxiety a huge realization happened within.  And I finally realized bullying was part of my past that I had never recognized or recalled.  And I never would have realized that truth about my past if this challenge wasn’t placed in my path.  That customer through me off course because it was time for me to evolve and grow from that experience.  It was time for me to process the past and let go of those negative feelings that no longer serve me.  And I needed to realize that I had the power to decide if I would let people push my buttons.  I was finally in charge and I didn’t need to allow others to impact my emotional state or drain my energy anymore.  It is ironic because I knew that I needed to set boundaries, I even talk about it in my book, “The Truth about IBS and Anxiety.”  But I didn’t realize I needed to set clear boundaries with everyone including strangers.  It is funny how sometimes you need a slap in the face to wake up and see the clear picture in front of you.  It all worked out in the end and I learned from my mistakes.  But it took a while for the truth of this experience to enter my conscious mind.  And it all happened this week as a much more obvious obstacle came in my way.  And sometimes the challenge is a wakeup call.

     

    This week those pesky negative thoughts were pushing me once again. It all became clear after I literally fell on my butt.  This time it wasn’t an event that made me stumble and fall.  It wasn’t an argument or confrontation.  It was literally an internal fight within my mind that threw me off balance.  Let’s just say it started 20 minutes before the moment I lost my balance and fell on my butt.  And it occurred because I wasn’t practicing what I teach.  I wasn’t transforming the negative voice in my head.  I wasn’t using my awareness to set myself free from the stress.  Instead I was letting the negative voice take over my emotions and creating a sense of hopelessness once again.  Some people might call this negative voice, Chatty Cathy, but I call her Negative Nancy.  Or for the gentlemen I call him Negative Norm.  Let’s just say Negative Nancy was on overdrive in my mind and those thoughts were getting in my way.  And since I wasn’t paying attention, I was about to get a rude awakening. It was time for me to practice what I preach but I wasn’t listening or observing the message. I was falling back into my stress cycle and I needed a wakeup call to see it.  Something had to give for me to see clearly.

     

    And boom the signs were all about to become super clear once everything fell apart.  I stubbed my big toe. My subconscious mind didn’t budge and I kept allowing Negative Nancy to take over.  And as the helplessness grew in my mind, my anxiety began to take over.  My emotions of frustration were building and I was getting grumpy for no apparent reason.  The day had been beautiful, peaceful and relaxing but I was not feeling relaxed at all.  My mind was stuck on negative overdrive for no apparent reason.  The message was going to be very different this time.  And boom I stubbed my pinkie toe with metal.  This bump made me see stars as the sharp pain radiated up my body.  It was so hard there was an instant hematoma.  It hurt so bad I had to breathe deeply to catch my breath.  It took a few minutes to get blood flow back to my head because the pain was overwhelming.   I was seeing black spots as the pain slowly resolved itself.  A few minutes later I realized my toe was bleeding and went to clean it up.  But my negative mind was still at full force and things were about to tumble quickly.

     

    I had no idea that I was going to experience an epiphany as my life flashed before my eyes. I had my right foot on the counter as I tried to clean my pinkie toe. I leaned over to reach for a tissue paper that was just inches away from me. But my body was not stable or balanced.  And suddenly I lost my balance and my life flashed before my eyes.  I tried to grab the toilet and stop the tumble to the floor.  It all happened in super slow motion as I remembered all the other times I had fallen and injured myself over the last 40+ years.  I slowly went down twisting in midair till my butt hit the toilet rim. After the sharp intense thump on my butt and hip I stumbled to the ground.  I laid on the ground for several minutes taking it all in.  I took deep breaths to regain my vision and energy.  It took some deep breathing to relieve the intense sharp pain in my lower back and butt. In this brief moment of breathing and reflecting, I realized that each of these injuries could have been avoided.  All of those events were under my control but I had chosen to let the negative voice take over.  I avoided using my awareness to set me free from the stress and the stress clouded my vision.  It is interesting how life literally needs to throw a curveball for you to see clearly.

     

    I took it all in.  Step by step from the moment I walked out of the car feeling stressed out.  I was worried about something.  And the impending doom made those negative thoughts and emotions go haywire in my brain.  And when your mind goes haywire everything goes off balance.  It literally throws your entire day off balance.  I didn’t realize how powerful the subconscious self-limiting beliefs were until I reflected on the events that had occurred since November.  My anger and negative emotions took over until I felt it in my body.  Yep, that is exactly what happens, when you stub your toe, hit your funny bone, cut your finger, etc.  You are thinking of something that the universe, god or whoever you believe in wants you to stop obsessing over.  To make a point and create a sense of awareness within you something will happen.  And that means an event, accident or confrontation will come into your life to get you to open your eyes and see it.  And hopefully you get the message and stop the negativity and self-loathing.  Hopefully you stop breath and reflect. And wake up and Smell the coffee.  The life events that come into our path are all learning experiences.  And life is great at changing the subject when you are smack in the middle of a stressful situation.

     

    We have all felt extra stress during this quarantine.  As a nurse, I left so many close friends, family and colleagues at the frontline.  It has been devastating to be far away from them when they needed support and love.  Yet, my fear and negative thoughts kept getting in my way.  I let all those negative thoughts stop me from reaching out to them when they needed me most.  And I spent the last few weeks working up my strength and resilience to help those I love most.  And it was my awareness after falling on my butt, that made me realize, this moment is exactly where I am supposed to be.  I was given a gift to share with the world.  And I have been hiding it because of my own insecurities and self-doubt.  I have been hiding because I fear what people will think of my uniqueness.  But the truth is it doesn’t matter.  Because the people I love at the frontline deserve to see the silly side of me.  They deserve to have the funny girl that brings a smile, a joke and inspirational words into their days.  And if that means I get on Camera with a wig and make a funny joke as I teach a relaxation technique then so be it. So after falling on my butt, I realized that my uniqueness can inspire others to use their awareness to set themselves free from the turmoil within.  And I was inspired to create a unique experience for my friends and colleagues at the frontline.  So I created a video teaching some simple relaxation techniques wearing one of my wigs. So the moral of this story is get up and get out of your own way.  The world is sending me challenges and obstacles for you to evolve into the person you dream.  Sitting at the sidelines doesn’t serve anyone. So get up and get moving.  Your awareness and action can set you free from the stress that lies within.

    Categories Advice, autoimmune, autoimmune crisis, Biohacking, Chronic Pain, Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, Emotional pain, Fibromyalgia, flare up, Health, hope, Inflammation, Irritable Bowel Syndrome, pain, Physical Pain

    Manifest Wellness

    What is wellness? How do you know you have achieved wellness? Is it the same for everyone?

    Can I go from feeling crappy to happy? Can I stop the cycle of feeling sick and tired all the time?

    Does my medical history have to be my fate?

    Wellness is a state of wellbeing and good health.  Wellness is achieved progressively as we develop our own supportive routine and lifestyle.  Wellness includes a variety of activities, choices and lifestyle shifts throughout our life span.  We can each experience our own unique wellness regardless of life’s challenges and obstacles.  Your medical history doesn’t have to be your fate.  It took me 7 years to find my Wellness because I lacked the understanding of the importance of tackling life’s challenges with a synergistic approach.  My journey was difficult and traitorous because when my health crisis happened I was stuck in the scientific and conventional world of medicine.  Conventional medicine is amazing for life saving approaches but it is lacking insight in health promotion and prevention.  Prescriptions are designed to cover up one problem and new symptoms emerge.  Going outside the box of conventional medicine is the way to truly tackle to root of your illness, disease and symptoms to heal the body.  It took me years of suffering through meltdowns, rock bottom moments and illness because I was unaware of the importance of tackling the emotional and physical root of illness and disease simultaneously. The gift I learned in the process is that the journey doesn’t have to be so difficult or torturous.  You deserve to find your unique wellness.  Everyone deserves to feel better.

    My name is Diane and I have a genetic condition called Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome type III (EDS III).  This condition impacts the entire body requiring many prescriptions, treatments and surgeries to deal with the overwhelming symptoms. I went to see a geneticist because I knew as a nurse that something wasn’t right.  It wasn’t normal for a 35 years old to be taking more than 13 prescriptions and spend most of her life in doctor’s offices.  By the time I was diagnosed I had more than 6 surgeries and more to come.  I also spent months in physical therapy for frequent injuries.  The health issues caused me to spend my life at neurologist, allergists, endocrinologists, gynecologist, pain clinics, rheumatologists and gastroenterologist’s offices to deal with the expanse list of symptoms.  Trust me that is not a happy or healthy way to live.  But after suffering for so long, I realized prescriptions, surgeries, injections and physical therapy were not my answer.  I was in search of a true solution and desperate to feel healthy and free inside my body.  I had felt trapped and helpless for so long that I was desperate for a solution.  And I chose my health and myself for the first time in my life.

    I began my journey outside the box of conventional medicine to truly tackle my illness once and for all.  In the beginning I had tunnel vision that blinded me of the full picture.  I started with nutrition, fitness and supplementation to heal and repair the severe damage my body had undergone since childhood.  By the age of 35, I was taking 13 prescriptions and injections for pain were a monthly must.  I was diagnosed with EDS III after several years of focusing on nutrition, fitness and supplementation.  I went to the genetics simply to prove that my hypothesis was correct and the doctor’s that had treated me were clueless.  My hypothesis was “Nutrient malabsorption, poor diet, lack of exercise and genetics was causing my expanse list of symptoms.”  My visit to genetics was proof for myself that I was on the right track.  When I was diagnoses I was already 60% better but there was a missing element I hadn’t realized yet.  Nonetheless the geneticist and my specialists were all astonished at the transformation I had already achieved.  I was on only two prn prescriptions (as needed), pain was under control without prescriptions and I was living a healthier lifestyle.

    Nutrition, fitness and supplementation worked on the physical root of my illness and disease.  This is the physical stress we experience when life stress and diet create inflammation, toxins and damage in the body.  I had that under control with supplementation, nutrition and fitness but injuries, pain flare ups and irritable bowel symptoms still occurred frequently.  My worst symptoms to control were indigestion, heart burn, bloating, fatigue and chronic pain.  My digestive flare ups would trigger the muscle pain and fatigue to return.  And my gastroenterologist decided a psychiatrist was the answer to calm my anxiety and reduce stress with a prescription.  I started on Celexa to help control my symptoms and finally had to face the fact that my symptoms had an emotional component.  I didn’t want to accept that my emotions were triggering my symptoms but after they diminished the truth was clear.  The quest then became to tackle that emotional pain without a prescription and truly overcome my symptoms. I did not want to be on anti-anxiety medications my whole life.  It was a difficult journey but worth the fight because I knew I wasn’t alone in this struggle.  I am not the only person that is sick and tired of being sick and tired all the time.  I am not the only one who is sick of all the prescriptions that wreak havoc on the body and cause more problems than good.  I am not the only person that feels trapped inside their body. I am not the only person that wants to find a solution to all their symptoms.

    Fast forward to 2018, the missing element, emotional pain, would prove to be my most difficult obstacle to face and overcome.  I realized that there was an emotional root to my symptoms that stemmed from my childhood.  By this time, I was trying to overcome a new fear and my physical symptoms were back with a vengeance.  My fear of being seen and being heard.  I desperately wanted to share my story and create videos on social media but my emotions kept getting in my way.  I underwent hypnosis to tackle the subconscious blocks and self-limiting beliefs from my childhood.  And suddenly, the symptoms were less frequent and I was making great progress with my fears.

    We all have experienced negative thoughts, self-limiting beliefs and emotional pain.  This occurs due to unprocessed emotions from our childhood.  We experience events, circumstances and situations in our childhood that are difficult for us to understand and process because we were never taught ways to process and release our emotions.  This vicious pattern continues throughout our lives as we re-experience these emotions and feelings.  The simple truth is that we all have a negative voice inside our heads.  And this little negative character controls are actions and reactions to everything we perceive in our lives.  I call these negative voices, Negative Nancy and Negative norm.  My Negative Nancy was a dominant voice in my head that controlled all my actions in life causing me to feel frozen and stuck.  She was holding me back from my dreams and hypnosis helped me realize that I could regain control of my subconscious mind.

    The simple truth to share with you now is that your physical and emotional symptoms are connected.  You may be skeptical as I was in the beginning but it a very powerful truth.  To achieve your own unique wellness there needs to be a shift in the physical and emotional realms to truly create a lasting effect.  And once that is introduced into your lifestyle, you can absolutely go from feeling crappy to happy.  You can prove to yourself and others that your medical history doesn’t have to be your fate.  It will end the cycle of feeling sick and tired all the time.  It will help you thrive and create the life you dream.  So the question is… Do you want to Thrive?  Do you want to find Your Unique Wellness?

    Categories dancing, emotional release, motivation, Physical Pain, positivity, stress relief

    Dance Release

    Have you ever felt stressed out and overwhelmed?  Have you ever felt anxious? Have your feelings made you feel stuck, unmotivated and unproductive? Have you ever felt trapped in your body? Have you ever felt trapped in your life?

    I have felt every one of those stressful situations above.  If you answered yes to one or all, know that you are not alone.  I have been there many times in my life.  Challenges and obstacles place added stress into our lives and often make those feelings and emotions arise.  The problem lies when those intense emotions stay for prolonged periods and keep you feeling hopeless, helpless and alone.  My journey to healing was not easy and it took me 7 years to figure out the true ways to Manifest health, happiness and joy.  But the beautiful secret that I unveiled is that it doesn’t have to be that difficult or complex.  Finding your own unique self-loving routine can expedite and facilitate that journey.  And dance is one of my little secrets that I know many people resonate with.  Trust me I am not a professional dancer.  I don’t follow choreography well or know much about professional dance at all.  This is not about professional dance but rather following the rhythm of your own emotions and body to release the pain within you.

    Energetic release is one of the little secrets I share in my programs and books.  And it all begins with music, dancing and vocals.  And it can easily happen anytime and anywhere.  And you have everything you need to do this right now.  You have your body, your voice and music.  And that is all it takes to release negative emotions from your body with the power of music.  I have always loved to dance.  Feeling the vibrations inside my body is a phenomenal experience that flows through me like fire.  Swaying my hips to the beat is relaxing as I listen to the music and process the powerful words and beats within my body.  Connecting with the message in the words is cathartic as you tap into your own pain and use the flow to let go of those emotions that don’t serve you. And the sound of the music melts my stress away as I use my body to flow releasing the tension and stress from my muscles.  But simple process and realization didn’t come easy.  I had lost my connection to my passion for music and dancing long ago. It was phenomenal to see the shifts in my body as the stress melted away.  But like most amazing things in our life we get caught in the hustle and bustle forgetting the things that bring us joy.  And that is exactly what happened with me over the years as chronic illness developed. And slowly but surely we lose the habits and activities that bring us joy because commitments, stress, responsibilities and excuses get in the way.  Then suddenly you have stopped all your fun and nurturing activities getting stuck in the mundane life of responsibilities. It creeps up on you and suddenly you stopped exercising, you no longer go out with friends, and you get stuck in a new pattern and way of life that doesn’t nurture your sould.

    This realization didn’t come easy.  And it took me to a painful place I know all too well, rock bottom.  I am sure you have been there too.  Many of us have hit rock bottom at different times in our lives.  Rock bottom is a place I have lingered at many times with emotional shifts and chronic illness.  I went through a really stressful and difficult experience in November 2019 that made me tumble and fall hard into past trauma.  I experienced pain, exhaustion, headaches, stress and intense emotional shifts.  Much like the stress everyone is experiencing right now during this pandemic, I felt trapped and overwhelmed.  That internal stress experience reemerged during this pandemic as confinement progressed.  The external stressors we experience create havoc inside our bodies as inflammation and stress accumulates inside our bodies.  And this pandemic has proven that the stress can be debilitating and overwhelming for many.

    Back in November the stressful experience caused me to feel trapped and helpless inside my own body.  I had experienced a situation at work that triggered past trauma and torment my life.  The stress caused me to lose sight of all the mindfulness practices I share with others and I was unable to practice what I preach.  It made me fearful, scared and lonely.  As I reflect now, on the events that transpired that day I know it was my perception that caused my downfall.  The situation itself was not life threatening or life altering.  The situation truly shouldn’t have taken over my life but it did. And it happened because my perception of the situation made me think and feel it was a life or death situation.  My body went into fight or flight and the stress response stuck around for months.  It was a torturous journey over the past few months to get back into my rhythm slowly incorporating strategies to reduce stress and calm my nervous system.  The event actually made me completely lose track of all the easy stress relief strategies I teach, like dancing.  And I completely forgot all about myself in the process.  I had to slowly pick up the pieces and tackle that trauma at the root. It took me months of slow progress, patience and perseverance to dig myself out of the hole.   Thankfully the torturous process brought me to an enlightenment and realization that self-care and self-love needs to be a priority.  And this is true for everyone no matter what circumstances are around you. One of the little tricks I use in my arsenal of alternative therapies is dance.  And I use it often, sometimes multiple times a day to shift my energy, vibrations and emotional state.

    Music and dance are healing modalities that I use often transform the way I feel in stressful situations.  And the beauty of music, dance and singing is free.  You can turn on the radio and dance anytime you feel the beat inside you.  You can pop in your ear buds and dance anywhere.  And I actually do that all the time.  I am the mom that sways to her own beat and dances while her kids play.  I don’t sit at the sidelines while the kids practice, I take advantage of my extra time and use it wisely.  But if I could lose sight of the things that bring me joy into my life anyone can.  Music brings freedom as you connect with the beat and powerful words throughout your body.  It is so easy to find songs on the web now with you-tube, pandora, spotify and other stations.  There are so many variations of music that people can explore to find songs and genres they truly enjoy.  So I invite you to turn on that special song.  Don’t worry who is looking or what they are thinking.  Don’t let fear get in your way of having fun and releasing stress.  Use your body and let the music flow through you.

    Music and dance are powerful tools and you can truly reduce stress and emotions when you use it.  Just feel the music as you sway to the beat.  Listen to the words and feel them in your body.  Tap into your bodies healing potential as you process and release those emotions.  This amazing healing tool happens with all types of music.  Use the music to release the stress from your body as you sway to the beat. Use the power of dance slowly swaying to the beat alone or with a partner.  Feel the deep connection that arises within you as you sway back and forth following the flow of your body.  Make dancing more fun and healing by creating a community.  Have a virtual or live dance party with your friends or family.  Music is healing and transformative for all generations.  Everyone can enjoy the power of healing through music anytime and anywhere.  So the next time your favorite song comes on embrace it and go for it.  You don’t need to be in the privacy of your home to enjoy the beat deeply within your body.  Pump up the volume at the next stop light and dance to the beat as you wait.  Pop in your ear buds and jiggle to the beat as you wait for your kids at practice.  Take a bathroom break at work and dance the stress away on your break.  The beauty of energetic release is that you can do it anytime and anywhere using the music you love.  So use it and don’t lose sight of the music that brings you joy.  And if you ever feel stressed out, overwhelmed or anxious take a break, pump up the music and feel that beat.  I guarantee the music will melt your stress away.   You might need a few songs to feel it but just go with the flow and let your body guide you.  You have the power within you to release your stress and music just makes it fun and invigoration.

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    Perception is Key!

    Yesterday, I wrote about the power of our words.  We don’t always realize the impact our words have on others.  But today let’s reflect and go inward to the deepest and darkest place within us.  Our perception of the world around us impacts our reality.  The way we perceive interactions, communication, relationships and events creates havoc inside our bodies.  This distortion of reality makes us feel unsafe, unworthy, undesirable, unlovable and so much more.  These are only a few of those hurtful feelings and emotions that arise as our minds are taken over by Negative Nancy and Negative Norm.  Yep, there is a negative voice inside our heads. I call mine Negative Nancy and for those gentlemen in this space, your voice is Negative Norm.  The voice is constant and persistent.  And it can break you down to your core.  It can make you feel hopeless, helpless and alone.

     

    But it all starts with perception.  The way we perceive and internalize the way we experience the world impacts our physical and emotional wellness.  And now during this crisis it is essential to become clear and transform that perception to reduce the symptoms and stress we are experiencing.  Perception is something I gently brushed upon in my first book, The Truth about IBS and Anxiety.  But my next book is really going to dig into this unique pandemic experience to tackle the Root of our pain in exponential ways.  My next book, The Unleashed Technique – gets really clear on ways to tackle that internal perception and stop those illusions that keep us feeling stuck.  But for now, let me give you a piece of perception to guide you into a simple practice that is easily available to everyone.  This simple practice came to me at the cusp of publishing my first book and it supported me to appear on stage.  And it propelled me to get out of my own way and publish a children’s book which I wrote last summer.  And the reason it worked is it helped me go within and truly understand that there are two sides to any story.  And we live our lives telling ourself and others one version of the story that is very distorted.  And this distortion keeps us feeling frozen, stuck and helpless.  And those hurtful emotions and feelings stop us from truly accomplishing the things we desire most.  And it all begins with perception.

    Let me tell you a story to explain the two sides of the story that lives within us.  In November, I published a best seller and in the midst of something fantastic I let stress and overwhelm get in my way.  It stopped me dead in my tracks.  It left me feeling anxious, fatigued, stressed, overwhelmed and in pain.  All of these symptoms were because I was stuck in my story.  I was stuck in the story of me being a victim to the world.  I was stuck telling a story of being traumatized and hurt by a complete stranger and I let that get the best of me.  But now I know the story is very different and it served its purpose.  The purpose of that difficult time in my life was to get me here.  It was to get me out of my own way and share everything I have learned on this journey to wellness.  It was a way for me to really get clear and unite practices for evolution to support the community and my peers at the Frontline.  But first, I had to let go of my fears of being seen, being heard and being me.  These fears have been in my subconscious since childhood.  And I thought when I published my book in November of 2019 that I had surpassed them all but I was wrong.  My perception of reality was still holding me back.  I thought everything that was happening around me was an attack on me.  I allowed my story to take over my life and it broke me down over and over.

    Trust me the process was not easy.  Even this week, I have let go of a lot of past emotions that were keeping me frozen.  But there is so much freedom in letting go.  That is why in March of 2020, I finally broke my resistance and appeared on stage.  That is why I taught those ladies that it is essential to Release and Relax. I was nervous as heck the day before I revealed my truth on stage.  But I pushed through my own resistance and did something to help others see a little piece of hope at the end of hardship.  And now, I share this story to tell you that there is hope for you too.  Regardless of your current hardships, there is light and a rainbow at the end of the tunnel.  Some people may say I am being superficial or too frufru but I am not.  I have been at rock bottom many times.  I have felt excruciating physical and emotional pain.  I have picked up the pieces time and time again.  This week I finally worked through my perception and changed the story.  I realized that I have the power inside me to transform the way I feel about myself.  And it is time for me to practice what I teach and teach what I practice.  So here I am, being honest and true and telling you, perception is key.  And if you want to truly tackle your perception it begins with a very simple practice of transforming your handwriting.

    Trust me when I met my friend Josephine Diamond at the Author Training Academy, I had no clue that we were going to create unity in the world.  I had no idea that this simple practice was going to truly unveil the lies that my Negative Nancy had been telling me for 42 years.  But here I am sharing a simple practice that I have been doing every morning for almost 5 months.  And it all started with learning to write my own name in a new way.  It is such a simple practice that can create clarity and unity in your own home.  I made a commitment to myself that I was going to write every morning for 40 days.  And I have continued it several times.  Because each month that passed I noticed little leaps forward and big accomplishments.  I noticed the practice calmed my mind and centered my thoughts.  I noticed that even on the days I resisted and woke up early, I still did it.  I finally proved to myself that I commit to my word.  That when I promise to do something, I do it. And now it is finally time for me to share.  I invite you to my course, Crappy to Happy to learn how this simple practice of writing your name with pen and paper.  And I will guide you into some very easy practices to reduce stress, calm your nervous system and boost your immune system.  Trust me my journey to wellness was difficult.  But it doesn’t have to be that hard.  We all have the extra time now to change our story.  And it all begins with a pen and paper.  So if you truly want to transform your life and get out of your own way then join Josephine and I on this journey.  All you need is a pen, paper and your body.  We will guide you easily through the rest.

    I dedicate this too all my Frontline Friends that I left begin.  I wish I had the courage to show you these strategies when I was there with you. I wish I was strong and powerful to support you but now I am here to support you.  So join me in this special course I created just for you.  My friends that are caring for patients with Covid-19.  My friends in the Fire department.  My friends in the Hospital.  My friends in the Police Department.  And everyone in the service industry.  This is for YOU.

    Categories Advice, pain, Podcast

    Words Matter

    Words are powerful and the impact they have on others are significant.  We have all heard the statement, “Sticks and Stones will break my bones but words will never hurt me.”  I call bull shit on that statement.  Words hurt more than sticks.  Words can break you down at your core.  They can tear you down to nothingness.  Words can make you feel lost, lonely and alone.  They impact those we love and care for much more than we realize.  Words impact strangers, colleagues and loved ones in exponential ways.  We often speak too quickly, forgetting that our ego tends to spread words from a hurtful place.  We have all said something in the heat of the moment that we regret once we breath and let things settle.  Have you ever had a conversation that made you want to curl up into a ball and cry?  Have you ever had a confrontation that made you want to throw something?  Have you ever had a fight that left you feeling lonely and isolated?  I am sure you all have experienced this painful truth at some point in your life.  It can happen with an absolute stranger.  But it is even more painful with someone you love and cherish.  This is something I have learned in my evolution from feeling Crappy to Happy.  We often let the words others say penetrate to our soul and break us down to oblivion.  But in order for you to understand and process it, you need to picture it in your mind and feel it in your body.

    I want you to picture a conversation with a loved one but first connect with yourself.  Simply take in a deep breath right now.  What is the worst thing you have told yourself inside your mind?  What is the most hurtful and painful word you have used to describe yourself?  What is the most rotten feeling you have experienced for yourself?  What has your negative Nancy or Negative Norm said inside your head? Maybe it was, You are ugly, You are stupid, You are Worthless.  Now, that you feel that yucky and icky feeling.  Imagine what it would feel like if someone you love utters those painful words to describe you.  Or maybe they utter words that make you re-experience those painful words again.  That’s right. It doesn’t feel good when we say them to ourself.  And it feels worse when someone you care about uses them either. It hurts because your little girl or little boy inside feels that assault.  The words break you down to your core.  Words can make you hit rock bottom and want to curl up into a ball.  Words can make you want to stay in your sheet all day.  Words can make you want to stop in your tracks.  Words can make you feel stuck or frozen in time.

    And in the midst of this crisis as we all experience added stress and anxiety it is important to breathe before we speak.  It is important to slow down and smell the roses.  It is essential to change the events in this crisis to create unity in the world.  Our words matter in the physical and emotional world.  Words create symptoms and feelings inside our bodies.  You may not have realized it but think about that experience I mentioned before again.  Close your eyes and really feel it.  Do you remember that moment? Do you remember what you felt?  Did you experience tension, pain or discomfort?  Words create emotions in our bodies and emotions create feelings or sensations inside our physical reality.  Trust me it is weird at first. I come from a very scientific background in nursing.  I never expected to find a world into alternative healing to truly impact my autoimmune disease and chronic pain but I did.  And in this journey, I realized how our perception and internalization of experiences impacts our physical reality.  We literally experience symptoms in our bodies as a result of our social experiences and interactions.  We also experience these symptoms by bombarding our minds with news and other painful stimuli.  And now in the midst of this crisis the news is extra painful.  It is important for us to realize the impact this constant assault from the environment has on our bodies.

    Have you noticed how your stress accumulates more and more when you watch the news all day long?  Have you noticed how anxiety develops when you constantly see the negative things around you?  Well it is time to make a change for your own health and happiness.  It is time to stop the hurt and heal the world.  And it all begins with the words we speak to ourself.  And the words we speak to others.  To truly change this quarantine experience we need to treat others as we wish to be treated.  We need to experience life from a new lens.  We need to filter out the negativity and bring in the light. And the easiest way to do this is to write.  Yes, write to create unity and kindness.  Write a new story for yourself.  Write and journal about the way you feel now.  And then re-write it again into a new reality.  And the most effective way at changing this hurtful truth is to learn something new starting with your letter.  It all begins with a simple meditation practice using the initial of your name.  Trust me it took me months to figure it out.  It took me months to accept that my little girl was hurting inside.  It took me continuous and constant rollercoasters from Crappy to Happy to find out this simple fact.  I invite you to try something new.  Try something revolutionary, yet simple.  And it will open your eyes to a new perspective.

    We have all said, “There are two sides to every story.”  We interpret that as being Their side and Our side.  But what if there are two sides to your own story.  What if you have been stuck inside a tormented reality replaying your story over and over?  What if this story is holding you back? What if it is time to change the story? What if if is time to find your new reality?  Trust me I have been stuck in my story.  I have only seen one side.  And then I realized that I had two different stories inside me waiting to be revealed.

    Join me for my course Crappy to Happy.  Learn simple ways to tackle the stress and thrive again.  Find the power of your words to transform your future. Crappy is what you feel when you hit rock bottom.  It is the way you feel when you are frozen and scared.  It is the way you feel when words penetrate you and break you down. It is the way you stay stuck and unmotivated.  Join me to unveil the secrets to re-writing your reality by releasing the stress.  Let’s rewrite your story.  Let’s transform the way you feel.  Let’s impact the world with a united front.  With mindful awareness you can change the way you feel and impact those around you.  Let’s support those Frontline workers by impacting the health and wellbeing of our community.  Listen to my podcast tomorrow at 7am or 7pm EST as I share a special meditation to support the community and my friends, colleagues and family at the Frontline.

     

    Categories Anxiety, autoimmune, Emotional pain, Health, motivation, Physical Pain, Transformation

    Keep Your Head Up!

    I woke up this morning with a song playing in my head.  As the words played, I remembered that everything is always evolving for the greater good.  The music playing in my head is all a beautiful sign that my day is starting off in alignment with my bright, intuitive, positive and creative nature.  Trust me it has been difficult for me too.  I may not be working at the bedside as an RN because my chronic illness and autoimmune disease lead me to a different role but I still experience plenty of stress.  I am the lucky nurse that calls families with Covid-19 results.  I am the special person that was chosen to give the news weather good or bad to families.  And trust me those calls can be difficult, stressful and challenging.  But my resilience and mindful practices support me so that I can be strong and support the families in the community.

    Life tends to through us plenty of obstacles.  Even with all the mindful activities that I practice and my perseverance, some days are harder than others.  And one of the things that seem to disappear when I am stressed is my creativity and writing.  Most people don’t realize this little secret because they see me on social media and assume that everything is perfect.  I used to write on this blog consistently before the spring of 2019.  But over the past year stress, challenges and obstacles kept throwing me off track.  And even though I was writing a little and publishing books, I still felt frozen and stuck.  And this phenomenon can happen for all of us on a regular day but now in the midst of a pandemic the stress is heightened. Trust me those days that I have to call a patient with a positive result aren’t easy.  But my unique stress reduction techniques propel me forward and help me stay healthy, happy and positive.  And it is essential because if I fall apart then everything around me will fall apart too.  If I make that phone call feeling sad, gloomy and upset – the families will feel it too.  And if the families I call feel it on the phone – imagine what my family feels as we are all confined in our homes.

    Stress and overwhelm reaches everyone you come into contact with and everyone you love.  You may not realize that the way you feel impacts those around you but it absolutely does.  Yesterday, I had a weird day, I wasn’t stressed or anxious but I didn’t feel connected to my creativity or productivity.  I wasn’t my typical fun and creative self.  I usually incorporate some fun creativity in the day for Lucas but I didn’t.  I usually plan an art project, game or science project.  These activities give us time for bonding, laughing, creativity and fun.  But yesterday I didn’t do any of that.  And Lucas spent all day entertaining himself which resulted in anxiety and sensory overload before bed.  And it resulted in him having anxiety and difficulty sleeping.

    The biggest secret I learned in my journey overcoming chronic illness and debilitating pain is that it is crucial to tackle the emotional and physical root simultaneously.  And the emotional stress is the most complex.  It is essential to shift the negative thoughts in the subconscious mind and staying positive.  And during this Pandemic Crisis it is absolutely crucial to stay positive and optimistic.  When we fail to see the positive in our days it makes us stay frozen, fearful and stuck.  This pandemic has been difficult for all of us.  But the beautiful gift is that there is a reason for everything, even this crisis.  And there is always sunshine after the storm.  The gift we have all received from this quarantine is more quality and quantity time for bonding and connecting with those we love. We all have more time to be with our children.  We all have more time to call up a friend and say hello.  We all have more time to video chat with extended family.  We all have more time to sit outdoors and meditate.  We all have more time to exercise and take time for ourselves.  But if we get stuck in the negative thoughts and distractions we can’t appreciate the positive gifts we have received.

    Staying positive during the difficult times can be easier than you think.  Somedays might feel super complicated and impossible to overcome.  Trust me I have had some pretty horrible days over the past few years.  I have had days that made me want to curl up in bed and stay there.  I have had days filled with physical pain.  I have had days filled with sadness and frustration.  I have had days that made me feel like crying constantly.  But I pushed through them because I knew that staying in that negative space would only make things worse.  And I knew every new day is always a fresh start.  And with a fresh start comes a new outlook. And with a new outlook comes new possibilities.  Sometimes it is hard to remember the sunshine will come out tomorrow.  Trust me I completely understand.  These days have been difficult for me too.  But if you keep your head up, stay positive and shift that subconscious mind anything is possible.

    Like the song says, we have to stay in the positive, keep your head up and stop worrying.  The secret to manifesting your wellness is to stay focused on your goal and stay positive.  If we allow the stress to overcome us and live in fear then Covid-19 wins.  Somedays are harder to feel relaxed, calm, peaceful and healthy.  But the secret is remembering there is always a rainbow after the rainstorm.  There is always sunshine tomorrow if you shift those thoughts and stay positive. Tomorrow is always a fresh start to achieve your dreams.  The obstacles, challenges and this pandemic is only a bump in the road. The sunshine will come again if you breath, relax and stay positive.

    Today is a fresh start to embrace the beauty and gifts around us. Are your ready to Manifest your own Wellness?  Do you want to stay Positive during this pandemic? Do you want to Thrive?  You can manifest your own wellness and stay positive.  If I can manifest wellness inside a body filled with autoimmune disease and genetic predispositions than anyone can. And you can manifest wellness now even amidst a pandemic. So, are your ready to stay Positive? Do you want someone to motivate you to stay positive? Then check out this exclusive program to support you during this crisis.

    Manifest Wellness with Diane

    Thanks Andy Grammer for waking me up with your beautiful song.  The song that played was You gotta Keep Your Head Up! 

    Categories Podcast, young brain

    Restless Nights!

    We all have restless nights. We have nights that keep us tossing and turning in our sheets.  Many of us may be experiencing this phenomenon right now.  Trust me I have experienced it several times during this pandemic but last night I was reminded that our children experience our stress too.  My son Lucas has anxiety and trouble sleeping sometimes.  And it always happens on days that I experience extra stress.  And yesterday reminded me that my children are affected by my stress.  In the midst of all my responsibilities, I forgot to be the mom he deserves.  I failed to be the fun and creative mom that supports him during this crisis.  I failed to take him outdoors to play.  I didn’t use science and art to foster his creativity.  I didn’t spend quality time with him.   He spent all day in front of video games and talking to his friends.  I even forgot to read him a book or play him a meditation before bed.  It is all pretty ironic since, I just published a book, which I wrote for him in the summer of 2019.  I realized he felt all my stress and anxiety last summer and wrote a little book to help him understand.  And last week, I read him the book and played him the meditation.  He enjoyed them both and drifted off to sleep but last night was different.  I thought about the meditation but didn’t play it.  I thought about the book but didn’t read it. So today, I will do it right.  I will read the book and meditation to him.  And tomorrow you can all hear it on the radio tomorrow at 7am and 7pm.

     

    On tomorrows Podcast, I focus on the stress and anxiety people are experiencing now during the pandemic.  And I read the book I wrote in the summer to help Lucas with anxiety. I wrote it long ago but never released it.  I pushed through my own resistance this month to support the families that have been reaching out to me support.  Families with special needs children face additional hardships that others don’t experience during this time.  There are many families stressed out and looking for ways to help their children during this stressful time.  I decided to share this book because people are experiencing sensory overload, anxiety and overwhelm during this crisis.  The experience is exponentially more intense due to the confinement in our homes for extended periods of time.  And children with special needs, anxiety and sensory issues experience this stimuli exponentially more.  I created this special Crisis Meditation and book to promote relaxation and calm for the entire family.  It is ideal to practice repetition to tackle the stress effectively.  I recommend families use this tool twice a day to support your child and yourself during times of stress.  This special hypnosis meditation is designed to calm the nervous system and boost the immune system.  It uses imagery, visualization and Ho’oponopono to create a soothing and supportive resource for the whole family.  I shares the meditation on the second half of podcast.  The meditation audio is available  for download on her website at: Meditation

    Categories autoimmune, autoimmune crisis, Biohacking, Chronic Pain, Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, Emotional pain, Empath, Fear, Fibromyalgia, Inflammation, kids, Mommy, motivation, Physical Pain, positivity, Speak your mind

    A Pandemic Within

    In the light of this new life stress and pandemic crisis, I realize that God was preparing me for this very moment in time.  Over the past 2 years, I have been evolving and learning to deal with my constant stress state. Most people don’t realize the constant stress and anxiety that I have been living in my whole life.  And the case is the same for anyone with a chronic health issues, genetic disease or chronic illness.  I never thought that I would be sharing my story of triumph over a debilitating genetic condition but here I am.  I never thought that I could learn to relax and release stress to reduce my physical symptoms, pain and stress but here I am.  I never thought that I could support others to deal with stress, illness, digestive issues and grief but here I am.  And this past year, I have done that and more.  And I never thought that I would use my techniques to help me deal with the stress of claustrophobia in a pandemic, and yet here I am.

    Most people don’t realize that my body has been under constant stress since childhood.  Most people don’t realize that their stress reaches their children.  Most people don’t realize that to truly tackle stress and calm the nervous system you need to address the subconscious mind.   We all have a Negative Nancy or Negative Norm with in our minds.  But there is power in transforming those negative thoughts into the positive.  Trust me I was a skeptic at first.  Shit I have been pushing through my negative thoughts and fears for years.  I push through them everyday to write an article, post a video or be my authentic self.  But the beautiful gift I learned in the process is that working on your Negative Nancy and Negative Norm actually impacts everyone around you.  Have you ever noticed when you enter a room with a Super Negative person, your mood completely plummets?  Have you ever noticed that when a high energy happy friend calls you, your energy and mood skyrockets?

    Well the same thing happens inside YOUR home.  If you are stressed, anxious and overwhelmed your children feel it.  If you are stressed, anxious and overwhelmed your family feels it.  If you are stressed out your customers, colleagues, partners and the world around you feels it.  It isn’t hard to shift that Negative voice but it does take a little time and effort.  And in the midst of this crisis we all have extra time to evolve and grow in our stress reduction practices.  We all have more time inside our homes.  We all have more time with those we love.  And to truly value that time and soak in the delicious goodness of these quiet times we need to go within.  Trust me I am beyond scared to have to wear that Hazmat suit and care for patients.  But I am ready for the task.  I was brought to this world to help people who are ill, anxious, stressed and overwhelmed.  And I know it because that has been my life experiences up until now.  I have become an autoimmune warrior, chronic pain survivor, chronic illness guru, digestive health prophet and so much more.  And it was all preparing me to help others in this time of great stress and anxiety.

    Trust me I have been avoiding my gifts for a long time.  I have been too scared to share videos of meditations and hypnosis.  I have been to scared to show the world that you can truly transform your stress and impact those around you.  But I learned this special fact at home.  Over the past year, I published a book, The Truth about IBS and Anxiety, and in that time I also wrote a children’s book to help my son with anxiety, sensory overload and stopping the stress response.  And the book has been sitting in my computer because I was too scared to show the world the truth.  And now in this moment of extreme stress I realize the injustice I am doing by not being authentic.  So today, I will finally get out of my own way and share my gifts and secrets in a special Support Group for this Crisis.  I will share simple bonding and stress relief techniques for mom’s to reduce their stress and support their children.  The strategies I teach have astounded my physicians, they have no idea how I have been able to stop my frequent infections, pain, migraines, chronic lung issues and more…  They are completely surprised because this is not something that is taught in nursing or medical school.  This practice is something I learned by going within and learning my own body using the scientific background from my nursing career to hack my immune system and nervous system.  Yesterday, my colleague and the founder of the non-profit Family Friendly Hands, came to me asking for a live to support families.  Trust me I was scared shitless to share my gifts and story on social media, yet here I am.  And yesterday, I recorded a healing audio on Facebook despite my own internal stress and resistance.  And today, in the midst of all the chaos and stress, I will go LIVE with Elsa Murguia Clarke to support the community and families with special needs children. And I will continue to push through my fears and anxieties to support the community with COVID-19 inside the Hospital and Outside.  Why?  Because inside the Hospital my role is to support families as they receive these results positive or negative.  And in the community my role is to help people slow down their nervous system, boost their immune system and release stress.

    This is a vital role I play because the ones that are impacted the most by our stress is our children. Trust me I didn’t want to believe it either.  But I lived a life of chronic illness, anxiety and digestive issues.  And it all began in my childhood.  As an empath, I was born with special gifts to sense stress in those around me.  And many of our special needs children and regular children have the same gifts.  And our stress reaches all of them.  Let me tell you a story, when I was a little girl my mom was always under stress, she had chronic illness, chronic pain and anxiety.  And the days she saw her mom the stress would multiply because her mom was a Negative Nancy.  I love my grandma but the fact is she didn’t know how to cope with her predominantly negative mind and it impacted her physical health.  Well that stress and tension crossed the generations to me.  And I have been learning to deal with those special empathic gifts over the past 7 years.  And finally, I am ready to teach people that you can reduce stress, improve your mood, calm your nervous system and boost your immune system.  And I know it because I proven it at home, with my children and with my clients.  So if you want to learn to calm and relax in the midst of this chaos, join the movement I am creating inside my support group.  I’m here to support you through this stress. Join my free Facebook group Unleash Your Inner Strength to an exclusive video I will share today, The proof your kids feel your stress.

     

     

     

    Categories accomplishment, Advice, Anxiety, autoimmune, autoimmune crisis, Chronic Pain, Digestive Issues, Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, fatigue, Fibromyalgia, gym, Health, hope, pain, Physical Pain

    Autoimmune Warrior

    What does it mean to be an autoimmune warrior?  It means you fight hard to overcome your symptoms and live the life you dream.  It means that there are battles and sometimes your fail but you get back up and do it again.  But most of all it means that once you finally succeed, it is time to share your story and help others accomplish the same.  It wasn’t an easy journey.  It was filled with obstacles and challenges.  It took me 7 years to perfect my process.  There were tons of rock bottom failures.  But we all learn from our mistakes.  That is when you find a way out, dust yourself off and do it again.  There were many times that I wanted to give up and eat junk food.  There were many times I wasn’t motivated to exercise.  There were plenty of hard days.  There were plenty of horrible days.  But every challenge I faced only made me stronger.  I have autoimmune leaky gut and a genetic syndrome called Ehlers Danlos Syndrome.  The combination can be pretty debilitating and overwhelming.  If I wouldn’t have chosen to make my health a priority my life would be very different right now.  It wasn’t an easy decision to put myself before others.  After all I am a mom, wife and nurse.  All those amazing things means you put everyone else before you.  And I absolutely love doing that but when my health started to fail and it impacted my children’s joy, I stopped to reflect.  If I didn’t find a way out they would be faced with the hardships of having a chronically ill mom to care for and they didn’t deserve that fate.

    Leaky gut is a condition that allows particle of food to travel throughout your body.  These particles begin to wreck havoc everywhere.  Then your immune system begins to attack the food particles and your own body in the process.  Leaky gut and autoimmune disease is a backfiring of your own immune system.  Your body attacks itself creating physical symptoms and pain. I suffered from symptoms since childhood.  But I had no idea what or why it was happening until my 30s.  I’ve learned a lot on this journey to find wellness.  My journey took me through an educational journey to find answers for others that ended up helping me.  My career evolved from a Special Education teacher to a Registered nurse in hopes of helping children with special needs overcome their health battles.  And the amazing gift that unveiled was the very answered I needed for myself.  In the process my health eventually failed and crisis struck.  I desperately searched for a solution to my horrible digestive issues. Slowly my body began to heal and transform.  The journey helped me develop an incredible technique that I have used to support my clients and children.  I reduced and practically eliminated all my symptoms in my body.  And boy were those symptoms extensive.  I used to experience all of these symptoms almost daily: reflux, bloating, cramping, anxiety, fatigue, chronic pain, frequent illness, migraines, headaches, etc.  The symptoms became overwhelming and my life seemed to be falling apart.  I knew that there had to be a better way to live.  And I knew my children deserved better.  And I am so thankful and grateful for the journey that brought me here. But to truly understand the hardship, it is time to take you into a journey about genetics.

    I went to countless specialists and as my research evolved I knew there was a genetic condition behind all my extensive medical diagnosis and symptoms.  But it wasn’t easy to find.  I went to rheumatologists, Gastroenterologists, neurologists and then finally a geneticist.  And that was finally when I got the answer I was looking for, I was diagnosed with EDS III. Ehlers Danlos Syndrome is a debilitating condition that impacts every organ, muscle and tissue of your body.  Most people with this condition have tons of surgeries and need assistive devices.  The pain and frequent injuries leave you feeling ashamed and useless.  Thankfully I was able to overcome that dreadful time in my life.  It has been amazing to see that I was able to develop a routine that has helped me become more active and energized.  It has been a long journey.  But I learned a lot along the way.  And the most valuable gift was that all genetic conditions, illnesses and diseases have a root cause that needs to be addressed synergistically for true success.  Trust me I was skeptical. I didn’t believe myself for years.  I didn’t truly accept that there were 2 root causes of my illness.  And then suddenly in 2019, as I wrote my book, “The Truth about IBS and Anxiety,” everything became crystal clear.  As I helped people heal, I truly began to see the transformations that were possible with my process and the gifts they experienced.  You see the truth about what I teach, is that it doesn’t only help mom, dad, grandma, or grandpa; it helps the kids and grandkids too.

    Think about it this way.  Reflect on your week or your month.  Was there a day that you were super stressed, anxious or overwhelmed?  Did it change the way you behaved?  Did it change the way you felt? Did it change the way you spoke to others?  Did it change their reaction? I bet if you truly think about it, you will say, YES, YES, YES.  I will give you an example.  My client, Demi, suffered from chronic illness, reflux, chronic pain and fatigue.  She felt hopeless and alone when we began working together.  She was sure she was doomed to fail and hopeless.  As we worked together to create a supportive routine for her, she began to transform easily.  Her weight seemed to melt away.  Her symptoms seemed to disappear.  Her energy and motivation increased.  And her life completely changed.  But it didn’t stop with her, it extended to the entire family.  Her husband and children began to eat healthier.  The more energetic and happy she became, the more fun and exciting their relationship became.  And her children began to change too.  When we started working together her youngest had anxiety and trouble sleeping.  He often complained of stomach aches and headaches.  As she began to improve the way she felt, their health began to change too.  She began to really see that her own health impacted the entire family.  She began to notice that the days she was stressed and overwhelmed, everyone was stressed and overwhelmed.  She noticed that when she screamed and lost her temper, her kids suddenly had a symptoms arise.  She noticed that when she wasn’t following her routine, it affected the world around her too.

    The beautiful gift she thanked me for her compassion and courage

    The funny thing is that I didn’t realize I gave her that gift until now.  I actually created that audio about courage and compassion for myself.  Because getting on camera, writing my book and sharing my story has been a difficult journey.  It has tested my resilience and perseverance.  It has tested my patience and kindness.  It has tested me in all facets of my life.  But Demi reminded me that my journey is not only to help women.  She reminded me by helping one person, I help everyone around them heal as well.  Because if one person can make a different to transform the world around them, imagine the possibilities if more people do the same.  We all deserve to feel happy, energized and vibrant.  We all deserve to thrive in life.  We all deserve to reach our ultimate potential.  And it all starts by working on yourself first.  I never thought I could overcome my chronic debilitating pain.  I though I was destined to live a life of pain and fatigue.  I thought that surgery and physical therapy was the only way to reduce my symptoms.  But now I surpassed all my physical limitations.  I went from a girl that never exercised or played sports because her pain was so intense.  To a girl that rock climbs, dances and repels down waterfalls.  And it all began with a decision to work on me first.  And the same magical transformations happen when my clients unveil their own healing powers.