The unknown truth about invisible illness is that people live with it everyday and those around them usually have no idea. You might see a girl with a big smile going about her day hiding the pain she is experiencing. Only those close to them truly know and understand their pain. Even loved ones have trouble understanding their pain. There are many conditions that fall into this category and ehlers-danlos syndrome is one of them. This is the syndrome that I have lived with for years and never truly understood until a few years ago when I went to see a geneticist. Some of the symptoms of this syndrome are chronic pain, chronic fatigue, digestive issues, frequent infections and skin problems. I was the poster child for this condition. I had every possible symptom except a heart condition. Thankfully that was the one thing I didn’t manifest even-though I did need to see a cardiologist because I had frequent fainting episodes. The day I decided to see a geneticist I knew that this expansive list of symptoms had to be related somehow and I was right. The sad truth is there is no cure or treatment for it. The most you could do is use natural alternatives, exercise, diet modifications and prescriptions to help control symptoms. I was sick of using prescriptions and had already started incorporating diet changes and natural alternatives to help me feel better. I had reached a point in my life that covering up one symptom with a prescription that caused another problem was not an option. I wanted to get rid of all the prescriptions and I was well underway by the time I saw the geneticist. She told me everything I was doing was perfect. She said to continue my diet and fitness routine, use methods of stress relief and stay hydrated. At this point I was far from healthy but my body was slowly improving day by day. I had lived with pain to the right side of my body for almost 20 years. I remember feeling excruciating pain on my right arm beginning in 8th grade. The pain and symptoms worsened into adulthood. By the time I was 30 my right arm was always numb and in severe pain. By the time I was 35 my right leg was also affected and became numb as well. Any episodes of less physical activity or fitness routine would make all the pain and numbness worse. So I focused on staying active and eating what I thought was right. I was far from truly understanding my body and the foods that were harmful but I had already identified gluten and corn as huge culprits. By the age of 39, I had undergone a bunch of surgeries and I knew that more were eminent if I didn’t find a way to heal my body. Then one day my friend Daisy, who has Multiple Sclerosis another invisible illness came back into my life. She was experiencing some of the same symptoms and had found some relief in recent years. She spoke to me about nutrigenomics and using nutrient rich supplements to impact inflammation in the body. I was absolutely intrigued but I had to research it for myself. I took several months to research oxidative stress and nutrigenomics to see if it was my answer. I also had to research the ingredients to make sure I could take it. You see with all my food sensitivities, I had to be certain before I took the leap. Then one day, I jumped. I was pleasantly surprised that my energy was improving within the first few weeks. My pain pleasantly was down to 5/10 from 8/10 within a few months. After 4 months my numbness was gone and my pain was under control. I started to truly understand my body and the right fitness routine for me. This state of less pain also helped me identify more foods that caused symptoms to arise. I had flare ups and injuries at times but nothing compared to the life of severe pain I used to live. I was finally happy in my own skin and able to enjoy the world. I no longer had to hide behind a fake smile. I had a beautiful real smile that light up the room. I started to spread my story to the world. I am here to tell you invisible illness is real. You can never truly understand it unless you live it. People that live it need compassion and support. If you know someone with an invisible illness, I urge you to share my story with them. A story of hope is always a great thing to share. It is nice to know that you aren’t alone in the world. It is nice to know someone is here to support you if you choose to change your life. I fought back and won. It is a lifelong battle but I am here to support anyone through it with love and guidance.
Do you feel trapped? Trapped in a vicious cycle of anxiety, stress and tension. Feeling trapped was a huge part of my health journey but I was completely oblivious until now. The emotional journey began this summer after I had healed the physical pain and symptoms. The time for emotional healing and reflection was here and I was ready and open for it. I began my emotional journey with holistic treatments and finally decided on hypnosis. The hypnosis and transformational regressions helped me identify my feelings and emotions. These emotions continued to reemerge and my progress would come to a halt. Now, I realize I had been trapped in a vicious cycle of emotional pain that continuously locked the door to my future. Little struggles, obstacles, relationships and stress continued to cause me to feel trapped. I didn’t realize that theses emotional struggles were causing me physical symptoms as well. It sounds crazy, I know, but its true. Every time I felt trapped and unable to move forward in my career, a new symptoms would emerge and my progress would stop. I have experienced many symptoms through this emotional healing journey. I have felt physical pain, skin eruptions, illness and infections. I didn’t realize the emotional and physical symptoms were all linked together, until I started to reflect and journal. I noticed some people and situations in life caused me to continue this pattern of disruption and destruction. I’m sure you have heard this before, connect with people that boost you up and break the bonds with those that don’t. It is often hard to identify the individuals that are harmful to our happiness and joy. Trust me it is a lifelong journey to wellness and disconnecting from these people that bring you down is the key. People that give off negative energy will pass it on to you. I realized months ago that I feel the pain and stress of others I am close too. If I have an emotional connection then your physical and emotional pain resonates throughout my body. It can be a burden and a curse if I don’t break that connection with those that don’t want to be helped. Absorbing the pain of others is toxic and harmful to my health. It brings me down and shuts my progress. Breaking that physical connection and identifying those people that bring be down has been the most difficult part of my journey. The first step is breaking the connection and the second is tapping back into my positivity. I had become disconnected from my physical need to unwind, relax and stress. I had become so stuck in the pain of others that I had forgotten about my own. I forgot that I am important and I come first. It isn’t easy to tackle emotional pain and obstacles but I am determined to succeed. I am finally free of the toxic pain I’ve been holding. I am here with open arms for those that choose happiness. I am ready to open the door to my future. I am ready to help those heal that choose to make themselves the priority. I am Finally Free…..
- Stretch your tight muscles & breathe deeply– combining deep breathing and stretching your tension areas will progressively stretch your muscles and reduce tension. This little routine everyday will promote relaxation and prepare your body for the ultimate sexual experiences. I call this “You Play,” its about relaxing the body, embracing the sensations and preparing for deep intense orgasms.
- Massage your feet – use a cream or essential oil and really dig in and stretch your toes and massage the sore spots. Our feet hold a lot of tension and toxins. A good foot rub will remove toxins, reduce tension and enhance relaxation to prepare you for fantastic sex.
- Kegel daily – building those vaginal muscles again takes a little hard work and dedication. Strengthening your pelvic floor muscles will enhance muscle tone, increase blood flow and promote lubrication. You can also use vaginal weights to tighten up those muscles faster.
- Lubricate – the vagina needs lubrication to enhance sensations and promote orgasms. As we age, lubrication decreases and lack of sex makes the body forget its function. Using coconut oil or water based lubricant will enhance the experience and help you reach orgasm more effectively. Don’t be stingy reapply and use plenty. This will prepare your body and enhance the sensations, to enable your own juices to flow.
- Fight Oxidative Stress every day with Nr2 activation– This was the most significant factor in regaining my libido. Taking 1 little yellow pill everyday changed my sex life forever. Stop the environmental and physical assault on your body and help it work the way you want. Removes toxins from the body that cause inflammation and illness. This is my most powerful secret to create the young vibrant orgasmic body you want.
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Sexting with your partner can be fun, exciting and ignite a fire in your body. Sexting is a fun and provocative form of communication. It is an thrilling way to flirt with your partner and rev up your engine. Pumping up the electrifying conversation will prepare both of your bodies for a great evening. Society has placed this label of taboo on anything to do with sex. There is no reason for this feeling of wrong doing or inappropriate behavior when it comes to your relationship. Your relationship is a safe place and sharing with your partner is fun, exciting and perfectly normal. Flirting is a big part of courtship and relationships. There is no reason why the flirting needs to stop just because you are married. Flirting doesn’t have to stop when you are in a committed relationship either. Its up to you to change the rules for yourself. Develop a plan that makes you feel sexy, happy and alive. It can be simple or complex depending on your desires and fantasies. Your relationship is a safe place to share your desires and fantasies. There is no need to keep your desires and fantasies secret from your partner. Let them truly understand your needs and appetite for your sexual experiences. We all have fantasies and your relationship is a safe place to share them. Your partner will embrace your fantasies and desires to develop a more intense and deep bond between you. I know it can be hard to step out of your comfort zone. I lived it, I was hiding my desires and fantasies for 15 years from my husband. I was scared to express myself and truly tell him what I needed. It doesn’t have to be such a struggle. Everything started to change the moment I started to share my likes and dislikes with my husband. Our relationship grew in exponential ways once I finally took the leap and truly expressed myself. The passion we felt during our courtship returned and our sexual relationship flourished once again. You can start simple with sexting or sending a pictue. Sometimes sending a text is easier than speaking your mind. Sometimes a little love note or email is even easier. For me that was how it started, writing a letter via email was the medium for me to regain the voice that I had hidden for so long. Once you open the door the communication begins to flow easily and the walls you have built tumble down. Sexting doesn’t have to be difficult or scary. If you don’t know what to say, there are so many options today. It doesn’t have to feel dirty or wrong to share with someone special. There are now a variety of applications with phrases to help guide you. There are even quotes on the internet that you can use to get ideas. If you are scared of sending pictures you can use SnapChat. Once you start exploring and engaging in sexting it becomes easier and the excitement builds. Taking a few minutes to tell your partner that you are thinking of them makes them feel appreciated, wanted and desired. It brings you closer and opens the door for communication and fantastic sex. So take a leap, send your partner a sexy text message, the results will surprise you.
Foreplay is essential for women because it takes longer for us to get to the point of orgasm. Foreplay creates excitement and initiates the bodies responses for fun by dilating blood vessels and increasing blood flow. Foreplay also improves oxygen and nutrient delivery throughout the body to prepare your genitals and erogenous zones. But the truth is foreplay doesn’t have to be what you think. Foreplay is about engaging the body and creating sensations that stimulate your desires. “You play” can be done all alone with the same wonderful benefits. I have created a few simple routines that create the benefits of foreplay in a non-sexual way, let’s call it “you play.” I developed these routines to help relax my body, reduce stress and inflammation. The fun fact I learned was that stretching, yoga and deep breathing provide a variety of unexpected benefits. My yoga stretch, kegel yoga and tension buster routines impact your body similar to foreplay. The best thing is that you can do it all alone and you don’t have to feel ashamed or embarrassed about stretching and relaxing your body. All three routines use your body weight, the environment and gravity to impact each and every muscle in your body. Through progressive relaxation with deep breathing your body relaxes and gets revved up for a fabulous orgasm. Incorporating deep breathing and focused stretching targets the body in a unique way that promotes relaxation, tension release, restful sleep and even orgasm. Foreplay serves a females needs by meeting the physical and emotional preparation we need for fabulous sex. The hugs, kisses and caresses of foreplay prepare the body by increasing lubrication which is essential for orgasm. Yoga Stretch, tension buster and kegel yoga provide the same benefits as foreplay. Both foreplay and my routines help prepare the vagina for a great orgasm by enabling muscles throughout the body to relax. By engaging your pelvic muscles during the routine your natural fluids build and prepare your for sex. Females need vaginal lubrication and blood flow to the clitoris to achieve orgasm. Preparing the body by engaging in targeted relaxation provides the same benefits as foreplay. The best part is it also prepares you for restful sleep. Wether you perform this routine for restful sleep, self-play or pre-sex routine, you will reap the benefits.
Are you serious? Does this work? Yes it does. You see 1 year ago, I had no libido or desire for sex. I was suffering from chronic pain and inflammation. Stress and anxiety didn’t let me shut off my brain and relax for sex. Sex was more like a chore than a desire for me. Over this year, week by week, I started to reap the benefits of my routine. I noticed I was more ready for sex and relaxed in the moment. My mind was not wondering as much and I was more present in the moment. The best part was that my libido and interest in sex slowly creeped back. As my libido returned, my orgasms intensified and multiplied. Orgasms became more intense and more pleasurable because my blood was flowing more freely throughout my body. The inflammation was being targeted through supplementation and daily relaxation techniques. My body was no longer blocked by pain, inflammation, stress or anxiety. I was able to relax and enjoy sex to truly connect with my husband and achieve better orgasms. The fun fact, I learned is that the routine also helped me sleep better with or without sex. Wether you are comfortable playing alone, engaging in sex or not the routine helps prepare your body for relaxation, stress release and sleep. So why, not try a routine that enhances your bedtime routine and takes 20-30 minutes to reap the benefits. You play classes: Tension buster, Yoga Stretch, Kegel Yoga or Fireworks series, you choose the class for you.
Reignite the love of your body. Learning to love and appreciate your body can be hard. I never thought I was sexy or attractive until recently. I didn’t appreciate the body I was given. I forgot the importance of taking care of my body every day. This constant physical assault with poor diet, lack of exercise and emotional pain progressively made everything worse. I lost the connection with my body creating an inability to feel pleasure. Over the years, as pain grew, illness prevailed and health declined the connection continued to dwindle daily. Over the past 15 years, my self-love, libido and sensations became dormant. I lost the desire to love and be loved. I lost my libido, somewhere between college and children. I lost the sensations and desires my body craved and enjoyed. Finally, when I hit rock bottom, I knew their had to be a better way. I knew that I desired to love myself, to feel love and enjoy my body again. I knew that I deserved to have a libido and enjoy sex with my husband. I realized that the toxic environment in my body was stopping me from achieving my desires and fulfilling my needs. I made a conscious decision to change my health, my life and my future. I knew the journey would be difficult but worth the trouble. Tackling my obstacles and establishing a healthy lifestyle started my path to rediscovering my body. I created a plan to optimize my bodies potential and reduce symptoms effectively. I learned to target my muscles to reduce pain, inflammation and symptoms. Thankfully, reducing symptoms was only the beginning. Once symptoms began to disappear, desires and sensations began to reappear. My body began to embrace intimate moments with my husband again. My body began to enjoy simple sensations that I was not able to enjoy before. I learned to create a Yoga routine that helped prepare my body for sleep and intimacy. My technique was designed to target my pain areas and progressively relax each and every muscle. Over the past year, I have perfected my technique, creating more effective targeted muscle relaxation. Now, I am here to share my story with the world. To tell women they deserve to love and embrace their bodies. They deserve to enjoy intimacy and achieve orgasms. They deserve to reduce stress, anxiety, pain and more. They deserve to live the life they want in the body they love. I am here to show you my techniques and help you achieve what I did. Love your body, embrace it and learn the multitude of possibilities it has to offer. Learn to target your pelvic muscles for better orgasms. Learn to relax your tight muscles more effectively. Breathe deeply and embrace the sensations of stretching and relaxation. Let me show you how to embrace your body and achieve all your desires. Your journey is only a phone call away. Ask me how?
Love your body, seems simple right. Well it truly is a complex process, there is nothing simple about it. Learning your body can take months or even years to achieve. It took me 20+ years in a constant health struggle to decide; there had to be a better way to Love my body. I was oblivious to the potential my body had to offer, the gifts I was given and the path my journey would take me. I wasted years eating the wrong foods, hiding my emotional/physical pain and avoiding physical activities. This constant physical assault on my body caused my physical and emotional illness to develop and my self-love to diminish. Over the past 5 years, I learned the foods that were optimal for my body, the physical activities that made me heal, the importance of caring for yourself, and the optimal routine to maintain my health. My true understanding of my body came over the past year. Finally, I was free of pain and able to feel and understand the messages my body was sending. I became aware of the tension forming in my muscles, when stress was at its peak. I realized that taking the time to address this tension early on, helped prevent the development of severe pain and helped maintain a state of homeostasis or balance. I learned to develop techniques and strategies to promote my daily healing, detox, muscle relaxation, repair and rejuvenation. I learned that there is a huge connection between physical and emotional pain. This fact made me more aware of emotional stress and its impact on my body. I was able to incorporate relaxation and stress relief into my routine to reduce the impact stress had on my body. Over this year, I developed my tension-buster routine, its unique for my body, my tension and my pain. But the fun fact is, it can be adapted and developed to help others achieve the same benefits. I learned to use my environment, gravity and body weight to stretch each and every muscle in my body. I learned to feel the tension in each muscle and learn ways to release the stress, toxins and tension from each one. Wether the pain is in your shoulder or your leg, our muscles are all interconnected and effective stretching needs to target this complex muscle network. I learned that my bodies weakness is toxins and poor circulation. My techniques help me optimize my bodies potential to release these toxins and enhance my circulation to reduce inflammation, stress and pain more effectively. The best benefit of my tension-buster routine and health journey, was rediscovering my libido. My libido had gone, completely dormant for 10-15 years, due to my severe illness and build up of toxins. It was an amazing benefit to see that all the work and effort I put into healing my body, helped me reap such powerful physical and emotional benefits. Over the past few months, I further adapted my routine to include Kegel Yoga. This Kegel Yoga routine is specifically designed for women to enhance libido, improve vaginal muscle strength and improve orgasms. This yoga is part of my daily routine and the benefits are outstanding. I am thankful that my friends and peers are now seeing the benefits of the courses, I offer. Kegel Yoga is designed to help women develop an intimate relationship with their bodies, combining the tension-buster yoga with kegel strengthening to enhance and reengage sexual desires. So, there it is, if you want to learn your body and reconnect with its unique abilities, give me a call. I am here to share my routines with you, in groups or private sessions. Learn to love your body, feel it, experience and achieve all you desire. Book an appointment, today, what are you waiting for?
A good friend once told me, don’t deny the world of your gifts, speak your mind and tell your story. My friend Luly B. has inspired me to share my story, speak my mind and change the world. She helped me realize my story is powerful and worth sharing. She has empowered me to share my gift of healing with the world. She has opened my mind to the possibilities for my new career path as a Holistic Health Coach. She empowers and supports my growth and development of my business. I am thankful for the reawakening of my passion. I am inspired to help others heal emotional and physical pain in a supportive, caring and meaningful environment. Luly has helped me develop myself into the strong women that I am today, the journey was not easy, these past few months have been the hardest. But every step in my journey has been leading me to becoming the woman I want to be: a supportive, inspirational and loving voice to guide others in their wellness journey. Over the past few months, I have realized my health journey and experiences with illness, physical pain, emotional pain and disease, were a stepping stone to my future. My journey created the foundation for my new career path as a Holistic Health Coach. My struggles, experiences and accomplishments have made me the woman I am today. If my life would have been pain free and emotionally easy, I would not have all the experience and knowledge I have today. This expansive knowledge base helps me make connections with people, understand their struggles and share my experiences in a meaningful manner with my peers, family, friends and clients. My experiences helped me develop the skills that I needed to become an effective, compassionate, caring, loving and inspirational Wellness Coach. Giving people the gift of wellness, is my passion, it is my new journey and my Gift to the world. I know that the gift is there waiting for everyone; open to learning and embracing it. It takes people time to realize that the gift I offer is exactly what they want for themselves. It requires the knowledge and understanding, that life can be fulfilling, happy, pain free and illness free. I can help people pop the bubble of symptoms, disease and illness. The question is, are You Open to receiving the gift I offer. I am here to share my gift with you, all you have to do is ask.
Speak your Mind! Share your story. Speak your truth and share from the heart. If there is one thing I have learned over these 2 months, is that speaking your mind is essential. If you have ever suffered from emotional abuse or trauma, it is hard to share your voice or speak your mind. It is hard to feel accepted and understood by others. You lose sight of your voice and its importance. It has always been hard for me to speak my mind. I suffered from anxiety and fear of public speaking all my life. It is easier for me to write a paper or story, than to speak it. I can write it all down in a journal, letter or story but getting up and Speaking, is another story. Over the past several months, through networking and social support, I have been able to reengage my voice and understand the importance. I realize now how important it is to express yourself and get your emotions out. The more you hold in your feelings and emotions, the more health issues develop. That was my biggest issue over my life, my physical and emotional pain, was triggered by keeping all my feelings and beliefs trapped inside. I never felt my voice was important, I didn’t think my story needed to be told, or that others would listen and appreciate it. I have learned through the relationships I have built this year, that my negative voice, was giving me the wrong idea. People have welcomed me and accepted me into their social realms. They have cherished the stories, I have told and the journey I have experienced, they see me as a powerful woman that is going to change the world. It was hard for me to see and accept the truth until now. My voice was hidden for so long, it has been a process to get it out. I realize today that those that don’t let you express yourself, don’t deserve your company. If you find someone that holds you back, break the connection and move on. Your voice needs to be cherished, your feelings heard and your knowledge expressed to those that will benefit. I have met many people over that passed years and realize not everyone deserves to be part of my life. Those that help you become a better person and achieve your dreams, are the people you cherish. The individuals that foster your growth and development are the ones that earn your respect. The relationships you build need to be supportive and nurturing. You will encounter people that you think are interested in your intellectual mind, power and knowledge but they might not be honest or true. It is important to surround yourself with those that support you and guide you in your journey. There is no point in creating relationships with those that don’t enhance your individual growth. It is simply a waste of time and energy to engage in relationships and friendships that tear you down. Your voice needs to be heard, your struggles expressed, your feelings shared and your journey supported. Surround yourself with those people that help you achieve all your goals and dreams. The people that continue to foster and support your growth, wellness journey and life goals are your true friends and companions. Keep them close and grow those relationships, you will see how you grow with them.
Love your body! The truth is most of us don’t do this. We get stuck listening to the negative voice inside us. The voice torments us and makes us feel ashamed of who we are, how we look or the way we feel. I know first hand, how hard this transition can be. I have struggled with self-esteem my entire life. My friends always ask me, how is it possible, you are so gorgeous, why don’t you see it. The fact is, until you feel it, you won’t believe it, no matter what everyone else tells you. I worked my butt off to heal my body and finally started to feel a gradual improvement in self-esteem over the last 5 years. The fact is if you spend more time focusing on your health by healing your emotional and physical self, things will change and self-esteem comes with it. You will see changes in your physical body, thus improving the way you feel in your own skin. I can tell you the huge self-esteem change happened this year, over the last few months because I got out of my comfort zone. After, 1 year pain free, working on helping myself heal from autoimmune issues, taking time to relax and focus on myself, I was finally able to realize I needed to help others accomplish the same. After I started feeling healthier and happier, my self-esteem started to flourish. I started to truly look at my body as this beautiful gift, I was born with. I started to enjoy dressing up, putting on make-up and seeing the transformation my body had undergone. The true understanding of my beauty, didn’t come from close friends or family, it came from deep inside me but I had to work for it. Once, I started venturing out of my comfort zone, attending BNI meetings and networking happy hours, I realized the impact I had on others. I finally, was able to see what my friends and family had been telling me all along. When I really paid attention to the reactions others made, the complements I received and the way it made me feel, the changes started to happen. I no longer brushed off the complements, I accepted them and thanked those that gave them. I learned to give complements in return. I realized the power of complements and the desire everyone has to feel better about themselves. Over these past months, I have developed friendships with people that I never would have spoken to before. I was so shy and scared to speak to anyone because of my own insecurities and emotional struggles. When I got out of my comfort zone, accepted the complements and felt good in my own skin, my self esteem started to flourish. It allowed me to reflect on my childhood, the relationships from the past that affected my self-esteem and develop strategies to deal with those emotions. By accepting the hurt, developing a plan and actively working to improve my health, the emotional pain and self-esteem issues started to melt away. I share this because I know I am not the only person out there with self-esteem issues. I know that I am not the only person that stopped caring for myself and suffered emotional and physical pain as a result. I realize that sharing is the first step in helping others build up the courage to take on their own healing. A huge part of learning my body was physical but the emotional was just as important. Learning my physical pain, understanding it, feeling it, and learning how to combat it each and every day was the foundation for my emotional battle. By learning, how to relieve my own physical pain and tension, I was finally ready to combat the emotional pain. Emotional pain is hidden and harder to deal with and accept. It takes a real conscious effort to work on emotional struggles and make a change. These battles are easier when you have a coach to guide you through the process, I know that my holistic health coach, guided me through this final phase of healing. If it wasn’t for her, I would not have truly understand the reasons why I was so shy, why I had trouble speaking to others, and why I felt my voice was not important. This emotional process was difficult and left my voice silent again for almost 2 months, as I continued to learn myself. It was hard to express emotions and write my blog, while I was working on the final transformation. I realize now, that a lot of my physical pain, was caused by my emotional battle. I realize that holding in my emotions and not speaking my voice, caused my illness and pain. Now, 2 months later, I realize that it was the final step in my healing. I learned that self-esteem is impacted by your body and mind. I realized, that my voice is important, that my story is powerful, and I can help others heal. The power is in the journey, the connections and guidance you receive in the healing process. I am here to help others accomplish their desires and goals by helping them cherish, love and appreciate their bodies: mind, body and soul. I am here to help you find your self-esteem and keep it. I want you to know that you don’t have to struggle through this alone. There are plenty of people out there waiting to help you. I just happen to be someone that experienced it first hand, I am here to guide you through the journey, if you are ready to take the step.