Category Archives: Perspective

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    Perspective Shift

    Our perspective is based on our life experiences, current situations, feelings, beliefs and stress.  It is impacted by our families and friends as well.  It may seem difficult at times to shift your perspective from negative to positive when life becomes too challenging.  Our life experiences change constantly making our perspective ever changing also.  Yet, it is the key to finding joy, peace and happiness in our lives.  Al Neuharth once said, “the difference between a mountain and a molehill is your perspective.”   I love this quote because it shows that our perspective can shift the way we look at our life, even in the worst situations.  And through my challenges I have connected with this belief that perspective makes things magical even amidst chaos.  On those difficult days,  shifting my perspective and recognizing my progress helped place life into focus unveiling the positive moments of each day.

    Creating this shift in perspective is a lifestyle choice.  It requires persistence, perseverance, consistency and repetition.  And through this process you begin to learn, heal and evolve through the challenge’s life brings.  My journey started 13 years ago and there were plenty of bumpy roads and rollercoaster experiences.  But I knew deep inside that I needed to heal the physical body to create a foundational support system.  And that made space for me to work on the trauma and abuse that had been hiding beneath the surface.  Albert Einstein once said, “No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it.” And that was exactly what I learned along the way.  The more I focused on mindfulness, gratitude, self-love and perspective the easier life felt.  I felt happier, even if turmoil lurked in every corner or crevice.  We may not be able to predict the future or clear all the obstacles that may come our way, but we do have the power to choose to shift our perspective and find the blessing in each moment.

    Changing your perspective is never easy.  It takes time, consistency, perseverance and persistence.  It takes practice to shift your mind from a negative thought into a positive outlook.  After all, shifting the negative voice in our heads may require our attention a multitude of times per day. Some days are usually easier than others.  But, on those difficult days, filled with challenges the negative voice often gets into overdrive. And those stressful days require constant redirection and may feel overwhelming.  I must emphasize, it was not easy but it was absolutely worth the effort.  When I began to see challenges through this new perspective, I recognized each experience was an opportunity.  And the difficult, overwhelming and stressful days diminished exponentially. And suddenly things from my bucket list, no longer felt impossible.  And I began to work towards the future, as I realized my daily visualization were helping me keep the shift more stable.

    My perspective has been shifting consistently on my journey to healing the emotional and physical root of my chronic illness, severe digestive issues and anxiety.  But like anything in life healing goes through phases: physical, emotional , mental and spiritual.  The first 10 years were physical and geared towards healing by reducing prescriptions and symptoms of disease and illness.  The last 3 years were spiritual and emotional geared towards reducing overwhelming feelings by unravelling the root cause of my illness, trauma and self-limiting beliefs.  The quote that paved the way for my perspective shift was, “Change the way you look at things and the things you look at change” by Wayne Dyer. And this premise gave me insights to begin some mindfulness practices that helped shift my perspective and fuel my day with a positive outlook. And I will share a few of those strategies that fueled me over the years.

    Strategies to Shift your Perspective:

    1. Breathe Deep and slow – take in 10 slow deep breaths with your eyes closed. My favorite is the 5-5-5 breath.  Imagine you are moving the air up your spine to the crown of your head. Breath in 5 seconds. Hold your breath for 5 seconds. And exhale slowly.
    2. Lay down in dragonfly position and combine with 5-5-5 Breath.  A great way to start your day with a new energy and perspective.
    3. Take 5 minutes to meditate or listen to a guided meditation.  A simple meditation is to visualize your day.  Imagine each moment from self-care, meals, meetings, driving, etc.  Imagine them all happening beautifully.  And focus on noticing the way you feel in those moments.
    4. When that negative voice pops into your head, recite an affirmation and take several deep breaths as you let it sink in.  You can try, “I am worthy of living, loving and having the dream.”  Or “I am good enough and I will get through this.”

    Now, it is up to you. Do you choose to shift your perspective?  Do you choose to find the blessings amidst the chaos?  Do you choose to make lemonade out of lemons? Yes, well it all starts with self-love, mindfulness and a decision to make the shift.  I hope you feel inspired to practice some self-loving perspective shifts and begin to experience the magic in your life.

    Categories Optimism, Perspective

    Making Lemonade with Life’s Challenges 

    Let’s face it, life brings us plenty of obstacles.  We face challenges and obstacles all day long.  And sometimes the challenges can feel like you are carrying bricks on your shoulders.  The difficulties we face in life place an emotional and physical toll on our body, mind, and psyche.  And it is often hard to shift our perspective when the stress just keeps piling up on us.  I know I felt life was overwhelming.  And during those stressful times, I often felt like curling up in bed and hiding.  But that isn’t always an option.  We have to keep moving forward.  We may not always do it for ourselves. But we do it for our families or those we love.

    I used to wake up every day with a sour stomach and anxiety.   I was stressed from the moment I opened my eyes till I closed them again at night.  I didn’t realize at the time that it was my nightmares that were causing such an intense physical and emotional reaction.  But after years of tackling the physical root of my symptoms, it was time to face the facts and deal with the emotional root of everything.

    As I began my journey, I started to follow a daily principle, I learned from Wayne Dyer;

    “Change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”

    I used this premise to reflect on my stressful moments and find the blessing in challenges.  I learned from the dark moments to find meaning in each experience.  Trust me life was not easy.  And some days I cried often. On other days I experienced excruciating physical pain or headaches.  But I kept switching my perspective and focusing on the positive.  I made slow but steady progress.  Abd some days, I woke up smiling and singing.  I started to wake up happy, excited, and motivated.  Rather than stressed, overwhelmed and anxious.  And the nightmares began to diminish in the process. And soon the bright days outnumbered the dark ones.

    And the new perspective and joy gave me the courage to face my biggest challenge in life.  I was ready to face my trauma, which literally gave me that sour taste in the morning.  It was time to go back in time, re-experience my sexual abuse and find the blessing in a horrible situation.  I knew it was time to learn the lessons and forgive myself for something that was never my fault.  But as most people facing similar hardships, self-forgiveness is often the most difficult to achieve.  I kept focusing on a positive outlook and finding the lessons each day.  And suddenly the dark days diminished, bringing more days of sunshine and hope.

    I learned to praise my progress and recognize my success often.  It was a premise, I later called Progress, not Perfection.  And at the end of 2021, I realized I had made lemonade out of lemons.  I had faced my fears. I had seen everything I experienced as a little girl. I had seen everyone that was involved.  I recognized all the beliefs those experiences had created in my life.  And as I unraveled the self-limiting beliefs everything started to change. As I let go of the sense of unworthiness my life began to bring new blessings.  And as I realized, “I am good enough,” everything began to look brighter.  And little by little, the bitter taste in my mouth began to disappear.  The sour stomach disappeared.  The chronic shoulder tension from bearing the weight of a 35-year secret was relieved.  And finally, I began to feel like my happy, energetic, and joyful self again.

    And one day, I realized life had become lemonade.  Suddenly the lemons of daily stress no longer brought me down.  I was able to find blessings and lessons each day.  And I was able to make sweet lemonade with each sour moment.  I knew it was time to share this perspective shift and guide others to see the blessings amidst the chaos.  And in November 2021, I created a Lemonade Meditation.  A short-guided meditation to face challenges and find the blessings.  The lemonade meditation is a little piece of the magic that came from this new outlook on life. And it was a great way for me to guide others to use their 5 senses to re-experience life’s challenges in a new light. Over the months, I have shared it with friends and small groups.  And today, I am grateful to share it with you.

    Thankfully the days of waking up with indigestion, anxiety, and sour stomach are behind me.  But it all started by choosing to find the blessing amidst the chaos, making lemonade out of lemons, and recognizing the progress along the way. If I learned anything on my journey, it is the power of self-love and forgiveness that sets you free.  But most of all, making lemonade out of the sour moments brings sunshine and sweetness to each day.